DP and I have been together for 13 years, living together in my flat (on which I have a mortgage) for 8. We have decided not to have children - a joint decision and one we're very happy with. The issue is - I want to get married. I've brought the subject up before but DP has always brushed it off and managed not to actually discuss it.
As a separate issue, DP and I have discussed putting him on the mortgage. My parents invested a 50% deposit on the flat so, to protect their investment, I have offered DP 25% (or 50% of the remaining value). He is happy with this. However, for various reasons (difficulty getting appointment with mortgage lender, not really sure how to find a solicitor) we haven't actually done it.
So this morning I managed to get DP to actually discuss the marriage issue. He won't do it. He doesn't believe in it, he thinks marriage is a joke. No room for negotiation. I'm gutted. I always thought I'd get married one day, and it means a lot to me. I think there are legal benefits, plus the mortgage faff would go away. But mainly, I want to marry him.
AIBU to be upset? And how should we move forward?
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Fluz · 23/06/2015 10:45
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