To expect him to take my safety seriously?

[dodobedoop]

I was meeting a chap tonight for a first date. We have been chatting online for a while. We arranged where to meet, he doesn't drive.
Just as I was leaving this evening, he text me saying he would be looking out for my car. I said, ok, then we can walk in the pub together.
His response was, no, so I can get in it (the car)

I said that I has already said I wasn't comfortable being in the car with him on our first meet. He minimised this, saying he isn't a mad axe man!!

So, needless to say, we have not now met. But am I over thinking it, or WIBU to risk offending him by putting my safety first?

[Wideopenspace]

Minimised it then didn't show, or did you cancel?

I think you were sensible to refuse to let him in the car - was he just making a silly joke?

[blueistheonlycolourwefeel]

Very sensible, u would say!! You have no idea who or what he is!!

[blueistheonlycolourwefeel]

I would say, not u!!

[PenguinPoser]

YANBU. Can't be too careful!

[dodobedoop]

No we cancelled. Or rather he said I had kind of killed it?!

He wasn't joking, and he tried to turn it around by saying that his safety was also important, how did he know I'm not a vindictive man hater who would make false allegations! I'm like WTAF?

[MakeItRain]

No you're not over thinking it and YWBU. You told him how you felt and he showed no respect for your feelings. He isn't worth meeting or getting to know.

[scarlets]

Definitely NU

[MakeItRain]

Oops I mean YWNBU!

[MsMcWoodle]

What a twat.

[fearandloathinginambridge]

YANBU. Not at all. Your safety is more important.

[AnyFucker]

bullet dodged

what a fucking nob

[Wideopenspace]

Ah. In that case, good call!

[WhereYouLeftIt]

You absolutely dodged a bullet there.

[MakeItRain]

Oh and his added comments just make it even more obvious you needed to head for the hills! Lucky escape I think!

[Earthbound]

YANBU.

He sounds like a twat.

[wanttosqueezeyou]

What a creep. You did the right thing.

[DancingDinosaur]

You did the right thing!

[LineRunner]

He sounds utterly dreadful.

Good call to not meet him. Ever.

[cozietoesie]

.... a vindictive man hater who would make false allegations.... ?

Oh Boy were you right to cancel.

[gamerchick]

Man you had an escape from that.

Onwards!

[paulapompom]

Yeah cos mad axemen are always honest and tell people if they are going to murder them!!!

He sounds awful and creepy, You were sensible - good call

[itsmeitscathy]

wow, you did the right thing. it's like lesson number one of online dating! I can't believe he cancelled!

[dodobedoop]

I know paulapompom, my thinking exactly!

Thanks all, glad it's not just me!

Onwards indeed gamerchick!!

[Goldmandra]

I imagine he cancelled because what he planned for your date needed to happen in the privacy of your car, not at a table in the pub.

Lucky escape I think!

[Mushypeasandchipstogo]

You know that you did the right thing. He sounds a moron anyway.