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I know I need to just let this go, but...

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QueenofLouisiana Mon 22-Jun-15 20:16:13


Yesterday we went out for lunch with my mum and dad and DH's parents. We went to a pub chosen by DS as he knows his daddy likes it there and it was the first time he's been able to choose where to go on Fathers' Day.

Anyway, towards the end of the meal FIL tells DH he was disappointed not to get a call or text that morning wishing him a happy fathers' day. After all DH's brother had. DH laughed it off, saying he knew he'd see his dad later (like now, at lunch) so left it until then. FIL replied he'd seen BIL at 11pm last night when they'd babysat for nephews, but still got a text.

AIBU to not bother with lunches, invitations for coffee, presents when clearly he just wants a text. We got whinged at while BIL was great for sending a text! I'll save myself £200 and hours of faining interest in MIL's family stories!

Goldmandra Mon 22-Jun-15 20:22:35

Sounds like BIL is the golden child and your DH will never match up. He might as well just send a text next year and stop trying so hard. It clearly isn't appreciated.

mileend2bermondsey Mon 22-Jun-15 20:23:31

YANBU but youre being OTT in your reaction.
It would be nice if your DH sent a quick text 'happy fathers day - see you later!'
But your FIL is being UR to comment on his dissapointment when he knew he would be seeing his son later, seems pretty petty.

FenellaFellorick Mon 22-Jun-15 20:24:24

next time, perhaps he should say
well, next year, I'll send you a text and X can buy you dinner.

LindyHemming Mon 22-Jun-15 20:25:28

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

70isaLimitNotaTarget Mon 22-Jun-15 20:27:21

I think just bite your lip till it bleeds and think "Oh thanks, we spend £200 and get no bloody thanks but you do BIL a favour babysitting and he's the Golden Child hmm "

Then next year, no meal, but send a card and text.

Families do come out with things though, notice what you don;t do, not what you do.

AdventureBe Mon 22-Jun-15 20:36:56

It would never in a million years occur to me to send my Dad (or anyone else) a text to say Happy Father's Day/Birthday/Christmas/How's it going if I was going to see them in a few hours time.

You might find though that they do it the other way round to BIL. My gran could be quite unpleasant to my mum in telling her how wonderful her other children were, but she used to tell them how wonderful mum was.

QueenofLouisiana Mon 22-Jun-15 20:38:01

Thanks all. A card and a text it is next year. flowers to all of you who are biting your lips on behalf of your DP's. Sometimes deep breaths are needed!

urrrnurrrjohnsnurrr Mon 22-Jun-15 21:05:51

YANBU! What an ungrateful git

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