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To think it's not normal to be so void of emotion?

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Voidofreality Mon 22-Jun-15 17:17:26

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Floggingmolly Mon 22-Jun-15 17:18:54


UnspecialSnowflake Mon 22-Jun-15 17:22:43

Normal is subjective, however you're not average. Most people feel emotions, but some don't, you're not the only person who doesn't, but you're in a minority.

RachelRagged Mon 22-Jun-15 17:26:07

No it isn't normal OP

I feel sorry for you. My Son seems to lack emotion as well, apart from anger oddly enough.

mothertruckers Mon 22-Jun-15 17:31:20

I do get this OP completely. I feel like get colder as I get older. Heaven knows how I got like this.

hedgehogsdontbite Mon 22-Jun-15 17:34:44

This is what I felt like when I suffered from depression. Not sad or unhappy like some seem to assume, just empty and devoid of feeling.

momtothree Mon 22-Jun-15 17:36:57

Do you have children? Do you feel the same towards them as say your mom?

spillyobeans Mon 22-Jun-15 17:37:32

Perhaps you have depression as that isnt just feeling sad, you can just feel nothing.

Also maybe you have a personality disorder? Go to gp and ask? Sorry not sure

fanjoforthemammaries7850 Mon 22-Jun-15 17:38:51

Before anyone comes up with this. Lack of empathy is NOT part of being on the autistic spectrum.

Aermingers Mon 22-Jun-15 17:41:33

It sounds like some kind of personality disorder. Have you had a good google about this sort of thing? I don't want to name names of conditions, but I can think of a few you could track down via Google pretty easily. If it was short term, I might think of depression, but you sound like you've felt like this forever. I believe it's something that's more common than you might think, around 1 in 100 suffer from something similar.

Do you have children? Do you feels something for them?

TheFirstOfHerName Mon 22-Jun-15 17:42:02

I feel numb . Permanently numb.

Some people do feel emotions less acutely than others, but feeling numb can also be a sign of depression.

Voidofreality Mon 22-Jun-15 17:42:08

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GirlInterupted Mon 22-Jun-15 17:43:52

Do you have dc?

hackmum Mon 22-Jun-15 17:44:10

OP, do you think you were born like this or did something happen to you as a young child to make you this way? It sounds very unusual.

mrssmith79 Mon 22-Jun-15 17:44:46

This level of apathy is quite concerning, have you ever thought about speaking to your GP about it? Assuming it's something you'd like to address of course.

GirlInterupted Mon 22-Jun-15 17:44:49

And did you have a difficult childhood?

GirlInterupted Mon 22-Jun-15 17:46:14

I'm a bit like this and I think it's a defence mechanism. My dc are the only people I have strong emotions about

Cabawill Mon 22-Jun-15 17:48:50

I completely understand how you feel. I don't thinks it's "normal" but I keep thinking of I keep trying the feelings will come.

I also plan and really look forward to things and then have no joy in actually doing them. I also feel slightly paranoid about what other people are thinking a bit like questioning why the are worried/anxious/sad because I don't understand it.

It's the empathy for others I really struggle with. I am definitely not on the spectrum in anyway but do wonder if there's something in the chemicals in my brain or something that's not quite right.

Theknacktoflying Mon 22-Jun-15 17:49:15

Asking an internet forum to diagnose or say what is normal isn't that helpful.

Is it avfecting your life? Your relationships? Your work?

MistressChalk Mon 22-Jun-15 18:04:34

OP does it bother you or make you sad/annoyed that you have no emotion or is it just something you've noticed? I have a personality disorder and have felt exactly the way you describe but my emotions did come back although an be stunted from time to time if I'm going through a bad phase. And whilst it may not be the norm it certainly isn't abnormal, it's far more common than you think.

RachelRagged Mon 22-Jun-15 18:07:20

I agree with GirlInterupted

Sometimes its easier to bury emotions (not saying you have done so), build a wall even to lock out any (emotions). The problem there is you also block out those closest, just a thought .

Could be depression as well , I have that and feel empty but only from time to time.

hiddenhome Mon 22-Jun-15 18:09:52

Perhaps a personality disorder.

What's your interaction levels and relationships with others like?

Look up 'blunting of affect' on Google.

NomiMalone Mon 22-Jun-15 18:11:23

I'm a bit like this.

However I have two DC and the crazy intense love and protectiveness that I feel for them reassures me somewhat that I'm not a sociopath.

PandaMummyofOne Mon 22-Jun-15 18:13:14

I'm generally a very cold person. It's a tactic I learnt in childhood to cope with situations is rather not go into now.

I love my DS and DP but don't 'feel' like I imagine I should, IYSWIM.

prorsum Mon 22-Jun-15 18:13:57

It's more common than you think. Are you unhappy with yourself and want to make changes?

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