I'll try and be as objective as I can- my friend was with a man, had a baby then HE cheated her and then HE broke up with her.
She was single for a longish time (4 yrs)- with full custody of their child. He is a good Dad as in he has his son frequently and seems OK- the child loves him. Him and my friend have got on very well over the years as 'almost' friends- as in completely friendly but only spend any time together at their DC's birthdays, Christmas etc. I've always been very polite to him, I don;t think he's the devil incarnate or anything and my DP is a friend of his (not close but, they play a sport together).
He has since had several girlfriends some longer term than others. My friend went out on a date and started seeing someone a month or so ago. Her ex went crazy and told her she should "concentrate on being a good mother".
So, this was a few weeks ago so I've heard her initial anger turn to upset and now to considering asking him to give HER another chance because this jealousy must mean he wants her, in her eyes.
My DP told me to stay out of it because quite rightly it's none of my business but this weekend DP called me manipulative by offering my opinion to my friend who was at our house. My opinion is that he wants to keep my friend in a little box so no one can have her but I'm not convinced he wants her and in my opinion she shouldn't consider asking him anything.
Am I being manipulative when it's my opinion that my friend asked for? I know I'm being sensitive but DP overheard me saying my opinion again this morning to my friend and DP said "stop trying to manipulate her and let her make her own decision".
I don't like the idea of being manipulative.
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NKfell · 22/06/2015 14:39
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