Hello.
I realise it's my first post here and I'm jumping in head first but... AIBU?
So, during an argument tonight where my 16 year old DS (who has aspergers) decides to pull a 'detour' - and by that, I mean this: we will be arguing about something quite straightforward then he will throw a curve ball and announce how much we are bad parents/change subject altogether/we don't think as a family unit/only think of ourselves/he's got the worst life ever (the usual OTT meltdown that I usually just stay calm, talk sensibly and talk him round to the true facts about family love, appreciation and the two way street issue). Anyway.....
BUT, then he dropped in that he's so stressed and has been smoking for ages to alleviate this, even tried weed and was going to try (something else which I couldn't make out) as he is so stressed with life and it's the only way he can cope. He then said DH knows all about this but said not to tell ME but now he doesn't care if I know!
Oh wow.... I tell you what, I
just brushed the statements aside like it didn't matter, what mattered is that we work together as a family, compromise etc, but, he has to realise us parents need to take control and set rules that cannot be overruled.
Inside, MY BLOOD WAS BOILING!
OMG, I am fuming with my DH - How dare he keep this from me in a "ahhh don't tell your mum, I'll keep it secret" kind of way!?
I am fuming and have really let my DH know that I am (in private). I would never ever keep things of importance from him when it comes to our children - eating the last choc cookie doesn't count... smoking and weed..... that counts!
Arrrhhhh AIBU?
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Husband kept secret of 16 yr old DS smoking.... DS let slip
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pheonix2015 · 21/06/2015 23:34
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