DP has a DD (4) from a previous relationship. Up until a year ago she was with us 4 nights a week until she moved 75 miles away with her DM to live with her new partner.
DSD announced this morning that she had made a Father's Day card at school for DP but her mum had told her to give it to her partner. Exact words were "i made you a card at school daddy but mum told me to give it to (N/C) Percy."
I felt so sorry for DP, he's such a good dad, he works hard, pays well above what he has to for maintenence, drives the 150 mile round trip every weekend so that he can see her. He's the sort of dad who would've really treasured a handmade card, it would've meant the world to him. He's been really down since this morning and said he feels as though his ex is slowly trying to cut him out of DSDs life (reduced holiday contact, not responding to texts or calls about access, DSDs attitude towards DP slowly deteriorating, mimicking what her DM has said to her etc).
DP suggested to his ex that he could be DSDs RP before she moved, but she refused and said that DSD NEEDED her mum. He threatened to take her to court to get custody but said he didn't want any more animosity between itself and his ex.
I feel desperately for DSD in all of this too, some of the things she comes out with are so sad, you just know someone has planted that seed for her to say it, she seems confused and angry most of the time and we are just focused on trying to make everything as normal and enjoyable when she's here. Like this morning he didn't react when she said, he didn't verbally respond to her but I could tell it had gotten to him.
AIBU?
To feel really sorry for DP regarding Father's Day card.
Stinkerbellabumsmella · 21/06/2015 18:24
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