I haven't been with my ex for the best part of 8 years, we have a DS age 10
There have always been problems regarding maintenance and him helping out with school holidays
To date my ex has NEVER had DS for any school holidays. This year he has agreed to have him for one week in the summer and I asked him what other weeks he was going to help out with and he replied that 'the one week is all he can offer'
All my holiday is used to look after my son but as we all know this doesn't cover all of it and I don't see why my elderly parents should pick up the remainder when my ex should be helping more
My DS goes into year 6 in September and a letter has come home from school with a letter regarding a residential trip costing £289
I text his dad this morning asking if he could contribute towards the cost, his reply? 'I pay enough already there's no more money'
Now he's currently paying £350 per month which includes £100 arrears, this is the man who lied continuously ( including to the CSA) about his income, paying £36 a month when he is earning £40k+
He got caught out and is now dealing with the consequences
AIBU to expect help in both instances? Next year when DS starts senior school there will be new uniform etc to buy also a residential trip-I don't see that I am wrong in asking his dad to contribute
FYI I have never asked him for help with stuff even when he was only paying me a pittance
I am not graby and my DS will not miss out on anything ( I will find the money) I just don't get his dads attitude
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AIBU?
...to expect my ex to help with costs for school trips and uniform?
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Aliiiii · 18/06/2015 18:07
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