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AIBU?

to think strapless wedding dresses aren't very flattering.

247 replies

meyesmyeyes · 18/06/2015 16:51

They look so unflattering on most people, especially if the top bit is too tight, resulting in any back and side fat 'spilling' up and over the sides of the dress.
You see Brides spending the whole day hoicking the dress up every five minutes - not a good look on your wedding day surely.

Anybody else think that the more traditional dresses look better?

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EElisavetaOfBelsornia · 18/06/2015 16:53

I had one, and I looked stunning. Smile

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motherofmonster · 18/06/2015 16:54

depends on the person.. i looked fecking unbelievably stunning in mine Grin

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WorraLiberty · 18/06/2015 16:54

It depends on the individual dress and the figure of the person wearing it really.

On the whole though, they do tend to be a bit unforgiving regarding back fat overspill.

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crumblybiscuits · 18/06/2015 16:54

I don't see why people care so much. I won't wear strapless as I have big boobs but if the bride is happy in it, why does it affect you?

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LashesandLipstick · 18/06/2015 16:55

I don't like "wedding dresses" at all really...occasionally there's a nice one but I feel a lot look the same and are really boring!

Each to their own

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TriJo · 18/06/2015 16:56

I wore a halterneck dress. Meant I wasn't pulling my dress up every 5 minutes and there was no backfat. I was pretty happy with it!

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Denimwithdenim00 · 18/06/2015 16:58

No it's the fit not the style.

Mind you back fat isn't attractive.

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FluffyMcnuffy · 18/06/2015 16:59

You don't get back fat overspill if the dress is fitted properly.

I wore strapless as I looked like a fat little doily in anything else, given that I'm short with enormous knockers. I needed a corseted dress so I didn't look 10 times fatter than I actually am. It looked fine.

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FluffyMcnuffy · 18/06/2015 17:00

Also I never once had to hoik my dress up, if it's fitted properly your waist and hips should be taking the weight of the dress so it won't fall down.

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flora717 · 18/06/2015 17:01

I don't like them. It's not a great look. But fashion will claim it's victims. Wink

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PurpleSwift · 18/06/2015 17:02

I had one and didn't need it to be hoiked up at all. If someone does they either bought a dress that doesn't fit them or it's been laced up poorly.

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tedmundo · 18/06/2015 17:03

I looked sensational in mine! I am a teeny 5 footer, not a back flap in sight!

(Many many years ago......!!!)

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viva100 · 18/06/2015 17:04

YABU They can be very flattering on some women. But you need relatively toned arms, nice shoulders, the right shape and, very importantly, for the dress to fit well.

Having had to shop for wedding dresses relatively recently I was shocked by how many of them were strapless. If you wanted more options you had to increase your budget quite a bit (at least that was my experience)

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morelikeguidelines · 18/06/2015 17:04

They don't really suit me (strapless dresses) generally as I have small books. Only time one looked good on me was when I was bf ing - baby was 7 months and not with me at the time so I wasn't trying to bf in the dress!

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BoyScout · 18/06/2015 17:04

I don't like them for all the reasons you state but even on people with the 'right' figures for them, I don't like it. It's too much flesh.

And now, so samey. I can't remember the last wedding I went to that wasn't a strapless gown. Yawn!

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morelikeguidelines · 18/06/2015 17:05

Boobs not books! The dresses come down is what I mean.

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mrschatty · 18/06/2015 17:07

Yabu I looked gorgeous in mine! Slim size 8-19 with lovely shapely boobies...I suppose it depends on the lady!

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revealall · 18/06/2015 17:08

Mostly dislike that it's so over used. I have noticed that many brides chose the most unsuitable dress they can. It's like the one time we totally forget to dress to body shape and go for whatever is supposed to be in style at the moment or the dress they've always dreamt of ( from 20 years ago when they were a stone or two lighter).
I saw a shocker last week and I did a cats bum face before I realised everyone saw me as I drive past. I felt very bad. Sorry bride I hope you had a lovely day despite the rude lady Blush

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MaxPepsi · 18/06/2015 17:11

I had a strapless dress.

It was fucking awful, it was supposedly made to measure - it wasn't. Far to big and the alterations witch lady was fucking useless.

It was to late to arrange another dress so I was stuck wearing the god awful monstrosity.

Having said that, it was only me and my mum & dad who thought it looked bad we have very exacting standards about clothes and they were in the business before retireing everyone else thought I looked bloody stunning.

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wonkylegs · 18/06/2015 17:12

Like all clothes, they are fine if they fit properly and suit the shape of the wearer. I looked fab in mine (have great shoulders, no back fat and no hoicking required). For me a strapless princess dress accentuated my good points - fab collarbones and teeny tiny waist and hid my fat bottom and disastrous legs so I looked amazing... Wish I could get away with that look more often.
My sister is the same size as me but a different shape and looks crap in my dress.

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TheEmpressofBlandings · 18/06/2015 17:12

I'm not a fan, so I didn't wear one. Simple! Wink

It is quite a hard style to wear I think, it doesn't suit many people. I was staggered by how many dresses were strapless when I was looking, but that was many years ago.

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SantanaLopez · 18/06/2015 17:14

YANBU.

I think Kate Middleton has sparked a new lacy sleeves trend, but it used to be really hard to find a wedding dress that wasn't strapless. I get acne on my chest and shoulders, so I wanted them covered, but it took a lot of looking!

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theDudesmummy · 18/06/2015 17:17

I had one for my first wedding and I looked gorgeous. I was however 24 and weighed practically nothing, with a great figure and not an ounce of fat. Also the dress was custom made for me by a friend, who took a boned strapless top that really fitted me perefctly, deconstructed it and desighed the dress around the pieces of the top.

I would not wear a strapless dress now for anything!

So the answer is....it depends!

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YAsoNBU · 18/06/2015 17:18

I couldn't even bring myself to take one step inside a bridal 'boutique'. I solved the problem by not wearing a wedding dress. Lots more choice of you widen your horizons (and better prices too)

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