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To think this is rude:

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BlueRedGreenPurple Wed 17-Jun-15 21:13:38

If someone who doesn't involve you in their child's life (like birthdays and other things) and doesnt take interest in your children's life either (doesn't acknowledge birthdays), phones you and tells you to make a cake for a big event their child is taking part in because her whole family will be there and they need a big cake. Then they give you instructions on what kind of cake they want. No invite or comments such as "we'd like you to be there too".

Isn't this incredibly rude?

Rosieliveson Wed 17-Jun-15 21:15:03

Just say no.

MaggieJoyBlunt Wed 17-Jun-15 21:15:14

It sounds it. Why did you say yes? Who is it? In law?

conniedescending Wed 17-Jun-15 21:16:26

Of course it's rude unless you are a cake maker and they're paying you

ollieplimsoles Wed 17-Jun-15 21:16:30

Yes. Don't do it, I wouldn't.

Are you a professional cake- maker or something op? Is she after a favour?

CaptainAnkles Wed 17-Jun-15 21:17:24

Tell her that you're not her personal chef and that she can make her own damn cake

WixingMords Wed 17-Jun-15 21:17:27

Yes it rude, they appear to be using you. Well unless you're a cake maker, and you're going to bill them.

iklboo Wed 17-Jun-15 21:17:58

Tells you to make a cake? It'd be a no from me. With a great temptation to tell them to sod off as well.

Discopanda Wed 17-Jun-15 21:18:06

Any particular reason for them not including you?

momtothree Wed 17-Jun-15 21:18:17

Not U if you are a professional cake maker and they are paying you?

CrystalCove Wed 17-Jun-15 21:18:52

So I take it you said no?

Only1scoop Wed 17-Jun-15 21:18:53

Yes and you would be a bit of an eejit to just produce the cake

CaptainAnkles Wed 17-Jun-15 21:21:49

In fact, I'd have no further contact and wait for her to turn up to collect the cake she expects from you. Then laugh and say you didn't think she was serious because nobody could possibly be that rude.

bloodyteenagers Wed 17-Jun-15 21:30:47

I have a feeling the op will make
It.
Why else would you listen to instructions instead of laughing and hanging up the phone.

Only1scoop Wed 17-Jun-15 21:31:35

Captain great idea

I would actually do that

DoloresLandingham Wed 17-Jun-15 21:33:34

'Bitch, are you on glue?'

Paging TidyDancer

Bakeoffcake Wed 17-Jun-15 21:35:54

Incredibly rude!

Just tell them you won't be making the cake.

londonrach Wed 17-Jun-15 21:36:46

Not sure why NO didn't come up very, very early in phone call op

ChrisMooseAlbanians Wed 17-Jun-15 21:37:01

Is she paying you? I'm a bit confused at this. Are you a cake maker?

ArgentinianMalbec Wed 17-Jun-15 21:37:45

Yes it's rude! Unless you do cakes and are getting paid. Are you going to follow the orders? Who has asked you?

Only1scoop Wed 17-Jun-15 21:38:17

Is it family Op

Need more info

Just to be nosey as yadnbusmile

MammaTJ Wed 17-Jun-15 21:38:23

It has to be TidyDancer on a NC! No one else has friends this entitled!

BlueRedGreenPurple Wed 17-Jun-15 21:38:34

Yes an in-law. Sil.

I'm not a cake maker, I do make nice cakes for my children though.

I found it so rude that she wants me to make a cake that she will devour with her own family who no doubt have been invited to go and cheer my niece on. I did say to her a few times in the conversation jokingly about where my invitation was. She was shocked i asked and barked back that I don't need an invitation but no one would be at home to lookafter an ill relative if I came.

There is no reason for her not including me. I've always been nice. Long backstory, but this is a woman who breast fed my baby without my permission.

She just came around with ingredients and is getting more tomorrow. I won't be able to get out of it now. I either make a nice cake or make a horrible one. The latter is very petty.

YoniMitchell Wed 17-Jun-15 21:39:23

Yes. V rude. Did you tell them to bog off?

CaptainAnkles Wed 17-Jun-15 21:40:02

shock What the jeff?
Definitely do not make the cake.

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