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Aibu to ignore school mum from now on!

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Yepyep333 Fri 12-Jun-15 17:34:08

My ds has a best friend at school so I am friendly with the mum but don't socialise outside of school with her, she is a lovely lady and we make small talk every morning, today she said to me 'Can I ask you something?' So I said of course, she then said 'why are you getting fatter? You are so pretty but you are fat shock WHY would someone say this?!! I have never discussed my weight with her, I'm not grossly overweight neither have I put on lots of weight recently for her to notice a difference, I'm just gobsmacked and I still can't believe it, I just looked at her when she said it and then she starting saying I need to drink water and lemon as I must feel really heavy and lazy shock I'm not sure what I should say to her when I see her next as the doors opened for school and we went our separate ways!

LashesandLipstick Fri 12-Jun-15 17:37:01

I'd say something back like "Hey, so I was just thinking - why don't you get a nose job? You'd look so much better without that obnoxious beak right in the middle of your face" and when she gets offended, point out that unsolicited comments about people's appearances are rude and if she's not prepared to take it she shouldn't be so quick to comment.

However I am a bit more confrontational than some, so understand if you don't want to do that

WorraLiberty Fri 12-Jun-15 17:37:03

Blimey, she won't win any medals for subtlety will she? shock

I would blank the rude cow from now on.

You don't need that sort of shit.

wanttosqueezeyou Fri 12-Jun-15 17:39:23

Breathtakingly rude. Avoid.

Hoppinggreen Fri 12-Jun-15 17:39:46

Is she a native English speaker? Could something have been lost in translation?
<grasps at straws>

Clammytoes Fri 12-Jun-15 17:40:23

Tell her you don't appreciate her comments , and suggest that she engages her brain before she opens her mouth , then walk away

AuntyMag10 Fri 12-Jun-15 17:41:27

shock She's so bloody rude! How on earth can someone think it's ever ok to ask this.

BettyCatKitten Fri 12-Jun-15 17:43:56

I think i would say "why are you so rude"
"I can change my weight but you can't change being horrible "
I'm just...shock that she'd say that to you!

PureMorning Fri 12-Jun-15 17:44:13

I would eat every time I saw her, make it really gross and loud. Make eye contact and open my mouth and show her the chewed food

vvega Fri 12-Jun-15 17:44:31

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Yarp Fri 12-Jun-15 17:45:26

Two things occur to me:

Social skills problems

Not a native English speaker

But yes, upsetting for you

vvega Fri 12-Jun-15 17:45:28

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PenguinBollards Fri 12-Jun-15 17:45:55

'Why are you getting fatter'?!?'

'Because every time I shag your husband he buys me a cake.'

Yarp Fri 12-Jun-15 17:46:00


I agree

cuntycowfacemonkey Fri 12-Jun-15 17:47:42

Wow that is incredibly rude shock

Yepyep333 Fri 12-Jun-15 17:49:57

No English isn't her first language, I have known her for 3 years and she has always been so lovely, she did know what she was saying shock I have been close to tears all day, just have no idea why she would say it, i thought she was going to invite my ds over for dinner not ask me why I'm getting fatter!

LadyCuntingtonThe3rd Fri 12-Jun-15 17:50:12

Can she have ASD? I can't imagine someone being so rude to person they don't really know. I would expect that type of "banter" within a family, but not to schoolmum.

SolomanDaisy Fri 12-Jun-15 17:50:36

She's probably about to try to sell you herbalife op forever living op some other pyramid shit.

Heyho111 Fri 12-Jun-15 17:53:10

You mentioned that she doesn't socialise out of school. Could she have social communication problems. Aspergers can be very subtle in women. People aren't usually rude for the sake of it. Hurtful but take it that mores going on.

LakeOfDreams Fri 12-Jun-15 17:55:59

My DHs family tell me I'm fat all the time. It's a compliment to them it took a long time for me to explain that it's rude, they still don't get it!

I also have a lot of Asian and Indian friends who would think they were being kind to tell you they thought you were getting fat.

I would assume if English is not this persons first language that they did not mean to offend you and would probably be mortified if they thought they had upset you.

vvega Fri 12-Jun-15 17:58:01

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Only1scoop Fri 12-Jun-15 17:58:57

Blimey what did you reply to that compliment?

BettyCatKitten Fri 12-Jun-15 17:59:47

grin Penguin

TheRollingCrone Fri 12-Jun-15 17:59:51

I,m speechless! You,d have been well within your rights to tell her to FOTTFSOF.

Sheesh! Some people have no manners. Is she not well d,ya think? -- clutches straws--

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