Ok, so this is more a "what would you do" but I was in a situation yesterday where I was genuinely unsure of what to do for the best.
I was walking through a covered shopping arcade on my way back to the office at lunchtime with a colleague.
There was a child of 3-4 standing in the middle of the arcade crying. I heard the voice of an adult sounding like they were talking to the child and without looking up, I assumed that it was the child's mother just soothing him and trying to get hm to walk along.
I then realised they I could see nobody close to the child, and I couldn't immediately see anyone within 10-15 meters who could be a parent and so I began to wonder of the child was in fact lost. He was crying quite a bit, and nobody else walking by seemed concerned. I didn't hear the voice again and so it could easily have been at that stage that I heard an entirely different parent talking to her child.
NOW. I am not a parent and I am not naturally the most relaxed around young children I don't really know (as an aside, I joined this site to learn more so I could be supportive to my brother and sister in law when they started their family).
On the one hand, I couldn't walk by. If he was lost, he would be vulnerable and I couldn't live with myself if something happened.
On the other hand, I didn't want to approach a child crying in the street whose mother as in all likelihood just out of sight. I thought it may distress the child more, and upset the mother who for all I knew was standing a safe distance away to try and get the child to walk to her (and of course, it is not my place to say whether that was right or not, it really isn't).
My colleague wasn't bothered.
What I actually did was send my colleague back to the office as I pretended I needed to make a phone call, and then stood pretending to look at my phone a distance from the boy to keep an eye on him.
I saw a woman come up to him, talk to him warmly, with the same voice I had heard before and he took her hand easily and so I am satisfied he is safe and with the right person.
BUT I did feel really awkward at the time and I really felt that I would not have been comfortable approaching the child myself because I was worried that this would have been seen as sinister by any parent waiting in the wings.
How would you have reacted if a stranger to you had approached your child in those circumstances? When would it be ok?
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Lovemydogs2015 · 12/06/2015 06:56
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