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To think this is a weird thing to do. And there is nothing I can do about it

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meganorks Thu 11-Jun-15 19:03:22

This might be more of a WWYD. Although I don't think there is anything I can.
Today I got a letter through the post containing a poem about my child. Basically saying I am a rubbish mother and she has caused pain and grief to others and that I don't care about her behavior. That's the summary. I have attached a photo so you can read for yourself. I don't know who has written it or what if anything I can do about it. I'm pretty sure the the implied accusations are not true. I should add that my daughter is nearly 4 not a teenager or something! So she is pretty much with me apart from when she is at nursery. I haven't been informed about any incident that might result in such an anonymous letter. So I wonder if it is just aimed at me? Although I didn't realise I had such enemies either.
So just wondered what other people would do if they got something like this? I thought I might report it to the police just in case it is something random that other people have been getting. Seems like a long shot, but it was addressed to me in my maiden name (got married less than a year ago) so wondered if it was maybe someone at a children's centre or something sending out horrible letters to people.

AlmaMartyr Thu 11-Jun-15 19:07:55

That is really weird, and horrible. I'd maybe ask the nursery.

ImperfectAlf Thu 11-Jun-15 19:08:23

Although I understand you may be upset about it, but if you don't know of any incident, it's probably not about you. I would ignore it, personally. Despicable behaviour of whoever sent it.

Pestolavista Thu 11-Jun-15 19:08:28

I think I would go to the police. As you say, you may not be the only recipient and this person needs to be stopped.

A friend received nasty anon letters, years after a relationship break up - could it be something like that?

sharonthewaspandthewineywall Thu 11-Jun-15 19:08:29

How awful! As hard as it is just realise this person is a lunatic with no point whatsoever and is probably a very damaged individual. To say such things about a four year old just proves there is no reasoning with such a person

Kissesgingers Thu 11-Jun-15 19:08:30

Have you tried Google for any of the phrases? To see if it's a "thing" or if some twonk went to the trouble of massacring the English language to try and wind you up. A complete coward too, if it was anonymous.

AlmaMartyr Thu 11-Jun-15 19:08:32

About it I mean, not accusing them! Just to see if they have any insight. Hope you're OK.

Earthbound Thu 11-Jun-15 19:08:45

How bizarre. Was it addresses to you personally?

AlternativeTentacles Thu 11-Jun-15 19:08:56

Wowsers. I'd report that definitely. Just in case it is part of a group.

SnozzberryPie Thu 11-Jun-15 19:11:16

I think I would go to the police

VivaLeBeaver Thu 11-Jun-15 19:11:33

I would talk to nursery about it, see if your dd has been upsetting someone a bit? But the letter is nasty and ott. Even if some 4yos have had a squabble it doesn't deserve a letter like that. It's very cowardly as well.

Might you have upset someone who doesn't know your dd and might just be wanting to upset you? A colleague, crazy mil?

ChampagneBabyCakes Thu 11-Jun-15 19:11:59

The sender is def weird. Report it. Take it to nursery too and talk to the teachers. They might have heard of similar things happening.

bellathebluebell Thu 11-Jun-15 19:12:02

How bizarre!

I would say it is a 'well meaning' person who knows you and is indirectly trying to police the children they know. It was probably sent to several people.

I would report it to the police. Do you have a PCSO you can talk to?

I'm tempted to stick notes on all the cars/vans who park over the pavement in our village forcing me to walk on the road (including a busy A road). I won't be as polite as that though!

taxi4ballet Thu 11-Jun-15 19:12:33

I agree with what others say about reporting it to the police as well as letting the nursery know.

flimflamflarnfilth Thu 11-Jun-15 19:13:16

That's bizarre. I'd probably report it somewhere. Nursery, local police station?

PenguinBollards Thu 11-Jun-15 19:13:31

Go to the police. Sending poison pen letters is serious. They probably won't find who it is, but at least it will be logged in case other incidents occur, either to you or others in the area.

I'd let nursery know too, just in case other parents have had them, or they have an inkling about a particularly troublesome parent.

It's horrible. I'm sorry you received that. sad

CaptainAnkles Thu 11-Jun-15 19:13:46

Hopefully someone has posted it through the wrong door, but how horrible that anyone would do it at all! There are some very strange people in the world

meganorks Thu 11-Jun-15 19:14:14

I did try googling it. The title is obviously unhelpful, but got nothing on the first 2 lines either. So I think someone has gone to the effort of making it up just for me!
Yes, it was addressed to me personally. And in my maiden name. Unless there was someone who worked at the nursery (its part of a school) then they wouldn't have been able to to get my address as no one knows it. I think I might have originally applied for the nursery place in my maiden name, but she didn't start until we were married. And people would only know me as her mother and therefore in my married name (the same as hers)

Shockers Thu 11-Jun-15 19:15:38

Has an older family member stopped visiting?
It's a bonkers poem and a cowardly act, but it does sound like it's from somebody you know.

Moonraker37 Thu 11-Jun-15 19:16:03

Creepy. Poor you. I'd definitely talk to 101 and/or nursery.

Shockers Thu 11-Jun-15 19:16:15

I say older because of the 'child of today' part.

plutonimum Thu 11-Jun-15 19:17:31

The person who wrote it is either very stupid, and doesn't realise such an attack will distract you by its nuttiness, and you won't actually take it as a complaint against your DD (counterproductive!), or else s/he is actually trying to distress you!

I know people get shirty on MN about going to the police about "every little thing", but I'd log it, in case it is the start of some harassment.

P.S. I'm on the desktop, so can't enlarge the poem enough to read it, but clearly you are upset by the idea that someone would attack your DD in this way!

Reignbeau Thu 11-Jun-15 19:18:51

shock

That is insane! What could a 3 year old possibly have done to be accused of ruining lives? Definitely report it.

professornangnang Thu 11-Jun-15 19:19:46

That's a mad thing to write about a four year old. How would a 4 year old ruin lives? Call the police.

SurlyCue Thu 11-Jun-15 19:20:08

The part where it says "has caused us all to be gone" would suggest this person/people knew you/her through a group setting that they have now left? Did you attend any mother/toddler groups or play centres or anything?

Althoughy tbh it sounds like a general "kids of today" rant maybe just slightly altered to specify your daughter?

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