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WWBU to regift the vouchers?

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RoyalMaybe Wed 10-Jun-15 22:16:30

We are going to a wedding next month and my husband is the best man. His best friend is getting married.

To cut a long story short, the wedding itself is costing the guests a fortune as well as a whole load of inconvenience. Dearest hotel we know, in the middle of nowhere, bar prices through the roof, all guests have not much choice but to travel and stay over, no other hotels for miles, no coaches, expensive stag do, etc etc. The guy is a total groomzilla but to be fair he's been a very good friend to my husband over the years so we are trying to grin and bear it and make the most of it.

Money is tight right now. I'm on SMP so we're really surviving on husbands salary and we don't have much in savings (although we do have a little bit so we won't go hungry or anything like that!). I haven't bought my dress yet (post-baby body - previous clothes don't fit so will need something new) and we haven't paid for our hotel room yet. Not quite sure how we'll make ends meet this month!! All should be ok next payday though.

We got married a couple of years ago and were gifted some John Lewis vouchers (not by this couple!). We haven't used them yet. The couple have asked for John Lewis vouchers as a wedding present. I know that John Lewis vouchers don't expire, so tbh I'm really tempted to just give them some of our vouchers rather than spend another £50-100 that we don't really have this month.

Is that a terrible, cheap thing to do?? And if not, can anyone think of any way they could find out that we've done that??

VirginiaWoofs Wed 10-Jun-15 22:19:16

You could always use the vouchers to buy them a present from John Lewis if you're worried they'll cotton on to it being a regift?

fastdaytears Wed 10-Jun-15 22:19:18

I don't think it's any different at all to giving them cash. I would say YABU for not spending on something lovely for the two of you but when money is so tight it seems like a decision that you're totally entitled to make.
Groomzilla massively U for making everyone stay in a crazily expensive hotel.

SavoyCabbage Wed 10-Jun-15 22:20:08

Not at all. In fact I would do it even if I was rolling in cash.

ImperialBlether Wed 10-Jun-15 22:21:13

Imagine someone had given you £50 in cash a year ago. You hadn't needed to use it. You wouldn't think it was stupid to give it as a present, would you?

sooperdooper Wed 10-Jun-15 22:21:36

Perfectly reasonable, plus if you're staying at the hotel buy a bottle of wine or whatever you drink and nip back to your room for a refill rather than pay the bar charges ;)

WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant Wed 10-Jun-15 22:23:44

How would they know?
Why not... It's the gift they wanted, and you haven't used it.

BabyMurloc Wed 10-Jun-15 22:23:48

Imagine someone had given you £50 in cash a year ago. You hadn't needed to use it. You wouldn't think it was stupid to give it as a present, would you?

This. So long as they don't expire and don't have coffee stains on I say just do it. How would they ever know? You can always go in and get £5 extra to get an up to date shiny card to present them in...

Purplehonesty Wed 10-Jun-15 22:24:41

Go for it! Yes hip flask and wine in room/car boot are a must too!

Ebay for your dress, lots of bargains on there ;)

RoyalMaybe Wed 10-Jun-15 22:25:54

Thanks everyone, that's a weight off!

BabyMurloc - that's a great idea but there isn't a John Lewis in our city so I would need to travel two hours to do that and I don't think I'll have time - I wonder if I can do it online though...

RoyalMaybe Wed 10-Jun-15 22:27:46

As for booze in the room - one step ahead of you grin

SavoyCabbage Wed 10-Jun-15 22:30:46

You can get them online as my MIL sometimes gets me some and she lives in America. And you can use them online as I do and I live in Australia.

Caterina99 Wed 10-Jun-15 22:31:44

I definitely would. If they have no expiry date on then how would they know? And it's the gift they wanted anyway!

I wouldn't be offended by this even if the giftee told me, but then I'm not a bridezilla, so probably just don't mention it!

dylanthedragon Wed 10-Jun-15 22:41:19

I'd use the vouchers to buy a fantastic dress from JL and give them £20 worth of vouchers in a card. But I have a low threshold for over the top wedding demands!

GloGirl Wed 10-Jun-15 22:47:19

I would also spend the vouchers on adress and buy them something cheap but meaningful x

AntiHop Wed 10-Jun-15 23:12:24

Yanbu. John lewis vouchers are a great gift.

whois Wed 10-Jun-15 23:34:41

I probs wouldn't even get a gift if it's been such an expensive wedding for the guests!

MrsHenryMountbattenWindsor Wed 10-Jun-15 23:41:41

Don't think of it as regifting, simply a redistribution of funds.

And if the vouchers are looking a bit tatty, I bet you can buy a JL gift card online using your vouchers to pay for them.

pollypocket123 Thu 11-Jun-15 00:00:05

Makes sense to me!

PeppermintCrayon Thu 11-Jun-15 01:39:02

I think you should keep the vouchers and just send a card. Feel quite sad at the idea of you giving them away.

Redglitter Thu 11-Jun-15 03:38:16

We went to a very expensive hotel a few years ago. Wrapped a 3 litre wine box in fancy paper, left a hole for the tap and shoved a big bow on it. Sat it under our seats and topped our glasses up during the evening blush

morelikeguidelines Thu 11-Jun-15 07:58:20

Yanbu to regift. I would. I would also borrow a dress - I usually borrow from my mum who is more stylish than me and maybe maybe half a size bigger (although that might be that she doesn't think clothes should be tight). do you have someone like that in your life?

Agree to spirit in a bottle to add to glasses of coke.

QueenArseClangers Thu 11-Jun-15 10:34:01

redglitter you win the MN prize for wedding genius!

Archer26 Thu 11-Jun-15 10:36:50

Gosh no, go for it. I think it's rather ingenious of you!

tictactoad Thu 11-Jun-15 10:39:24

YANBU to regift but check the design of the vouchers hasn't changed because that might be a bit of a clue grin

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