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To expect my DCs (Yr 7&9) to walk 40 mins to school and home again.

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Lauresbadhairday Wed 10-Jun-15 15:35:47

My DCs are at an independent school and therefore most of the children live some distance away and are dropped off and picked up from school by parents every day. We live a 40 min walk away and I think my DCs should be able to manage this to and from school. They are 12 & 14.

They moan daily about walking - "it's too far", "my bag's too heavy, "it's raining", "none of my friends walk" etc, etc.

Now by my own admission I have been too soft and have dropped them off/picked them up quite frequently however I really want this to stop and for them to walk. I am getting much tougher and have not given them a lift at all since half-term but the moaning continues.

So, AIBU in making them walk 40 mins to school and back? If the general consensus is that I am then I will suck it up and give them a lift but I really think at 12&14 they are perfectly capable of walking this distance daily.

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes Wed 10-Jun-15 15:38:08

My DS does.

Has since he was 10.

Jollyphonics Wed 10-Jun-15 15:40:39

I think it's a long way to walk to be honest. Do you work and find it difficult to fit the commute in with your schedule, or do you want them to walk because it's good for them? Could you drop them part way? Is there a bus?

Talismania Wed 10-Jun-15 15:41:06

YABU. 40 minutes isn't far for a one off but way too much daily.

TobikkoRoll Wed 10-Jun-15 15:41:46

Mine walk 20 mins (fast pace) each way to secondary school, they still complain. To be fair, they each carry a heavy rucksack. I occasionally drive them, <10 mins if the weather is bad. 40 mins sounds a bit far, with school gear. But I'm soft too.

Chunkymonkey79 Wed 10-Jun-15 15:42:28


Personally I think a 40 minute walk twice a day around school is a bit much.

20 minutes each way would be about right for me.

Chunkymonkey79 Wed 10-Jun-15 15:43:22

In addition to my post, it must be hell in the winter walking all that way getting cold and wet!

MuddlingMackem Wed 10-Jun-15 15:43:26

YANBU. My DS will have an approx 35 minute walk each way when he starts Y7 in September. Good exercise for them. grin

Sabaidee Wed 10-Jun-15 15:43:49

I think it is a good habit to get into. Admittedly, I am an adult. But have always walked an hour to work in the morning and find it the best way to wake up and wind down. Much better than sitting in a car or on a bus.

inthename Wed 10-Jun-15 15:44:09

yanbu, but ds also at independent, walks as we are about 10 mins away and has had so much teasing and stupid comments because he walks its ridiculous, so bear in mind that the moaning may be fueled by peer pressure. No problem with them walking, though maybe give them a lift in bad weather.

HmmAnOxfordComma Wed 10-Jun-15 15:44:22

No, it's not too far in reasonable weather UNLESS they do have a point about bags being heavy?

Ds is at an independent school and they use far more textbooks than in all the state schools locally. I wouldn't want him to be walking for 40 minutes each way with his very heavy bag (we live a lot nearer school)...

MuddlingMackem Wed 10-Jun-15 15:44:36

Although he will be able to get the bus occasionally if the weather is lousy.

GooseyLoosey Wed 10-Jun-15 15:44:47

40 mins is quite long - have you felt the weight of their bags?

What are you doing when you are not giving them a lift? If work makes it a total nightmare then you have to balance the hardship for them against the inconvenience for you.

If it is just you don't want to, then I think YABU

BrilliantDayForTheRace Wed 10-Jun-15 15:45:29

40 minutes is not too far!
But if they don't want to walk they can always bike smile

jazzandh Wed 10-Jun-15 15:45:31

Can they cycle or scoot? What time to they have to leave to get to school and what time do they get out of school, and what is the walk like?

HmmAnOxfordComma Wed 10-Jun-15 15:45:49

Oh, ds's school has a minibus collection service from the train station (5 mins). It seems to be all girls who use the bus - the boys all walk.

kslatts Wed 10-Jun-15 15:46:12

YANBU, we live about 40 mins walk for dd's school and they walk, they are 15 and 13. I drive past the school on my way to work and will sometimes give them a lift to school, however when I work from home they walk both ways.

Talismania - why do you think it's too far?

jazzandh Wed 10-Jun-15 15:47:03

How far is it actually?

MrsLeighHalfpenny Wed 10-Jun-15 15:47:22

I used to walk about 40 mins to school and home every day - up a big hill on the way home too sad. And sometimes carrying school bag, gym bag and cookery basket.

If there's no alternative, it's certainly not going to do them any harm. If there is an alternative, how about taking them in the car or collecting them as a treat every so often - every Friday perhaps, so the weekend can start asap.

schilke Wed 10-Jun-15 15:47:51

My 2 older dc walk 40 mins twice a day for school. I had to walk 35 mins twice a day when I was at school. I think it's fine.

SilasGreenback Wed 10-Jun-15 15:47:55

Could they cycle? With good panniers they can carry a lot of books.

School bag, plus games kit, plus and instrument (if they play one) is a bit much to carry 40 minutes walking.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Wed 10-Jun-15 15:47:57

I think it's too far every day as well.

Cycling would make it easier.

ouryve Wed 10-Jun-15 15:48:23

Would you walk that distance with heavy bags, either end of a long day, in all weathers?

It's a hell of a walk to do day in, day out. And I say that as someone who has always walked a lot.

BluebeardsSidekick Wed 10-Jun-15 15:48:40

"I think it's a long way to walk to be honest." "a bit much"

A bit much? At 12 and 14?! My children were doing that amount of walking at three and five! The three year old did double that for some considerable time, dropping off the 5 year old with me, walking home and then doing the same trip in the afternoon to pick up again.


Magicalmrmistofeles Wed 10-Jun-15 15:50:00

I think 40 mins in the rain is too far, I wouldn't want to. Otherwise as long as they have decent backpacks can't see the problem.

Is there no bus?

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