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Autistic DD - emotional

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naughtylist · 10/06/2015 00:19

DD 8 wanted to do something for her birthday. Like many autistic children, she is not great socially and she doesn't really have many if any real friends. I feared rejection for her so suggested a quiet family party for her but she said she wanted to invite school friends. With a heavy heart, I sent out 7 invitations to go bowling in 2 weeks time. I told DD not to worry if they couldn't come as we would have a nice day anyway. Yet fucking 5 out of the 7 have responded saying they want to come. I could cry (I have cried). 2 of the parents said their dd's were so excited to come and nagging their parents. DD is so happy. It may not seem much to most people but this is like winning the lottery to us. I have seen a lot of posts from parents of autistic children here recently scared for the future. I am scared too especially with the amount of people that believe 'in my day, there was not autism, just naughty children' bullshit but days like these are really great.

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Alambil · 10/06/2015 00:29

oh that is fantastic!

happy birthday to your lovely DD

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falgelednl · 10/06/2015 00:30

Just saw this and wanted to come on and say 'how fabulous'. I was so ready to read that 5 out of 7 had turned down the invitation so I had a real moment when it was the other way round.
My daughter is also in this position and so often has decided not to 'bother' having a birthday party as she often cannot cope with all the anxiety of what/where/who and often just finds it overwhelming.

Feeling happy for your daughter (and you) - well done to those respondents!

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SurlyCue · 10/06/2015 00:32

It is a massive thing! I am so happy for your DD. I hope she has a fantastic day.

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NickiFury · 10/06/2015 00:35

I have an 8 year old dd with ASD too Smile. It's massive, I am so happy for you. Best feeling in the world when things go well for these amazing kids of ours.

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naughtylist · 10/06/2015 00:38

Thank you guys, just automatically prepared us for rejection. For once, am am so positively overwhelmed.

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SurlyCue · 10/06/2015 00:44

When i was in primary school i had no friends, one year my mum sent invitations to my classmates for an "end of year party" without telling me (incase they said no) it was actually my birthday party but she knew no-one would come if she told them that. She surprised me on the day just saying that we were having a little party. She just wanted me to be able to have at least one birthday party.

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ToadsJustFellFromTheSky · 10/06/2015 00:52

Aww SurlyCue that was very nice of your mum Smile.

OP before I read your whole post I thought you were going to say that no one was coming to the party. I'm glad I was wrong though.

I hope your dd has a fantastic birthday.

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naughtylist · 10/06/2015 00:55

SurlyCue your mum sounds great x

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Kampeki · 10/06/2015 00:56

That's lovely OP. Hope that your dd enjoys her party! :)

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SurlyCue · 10/06/2015 00:56

It broke her heart doing it tbh. I suppose much how you were feeling OP.

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Laladeepsouth · 10/06/2015 01:10

OP, so happy for you and your DD! Thanks for sharing! Hope you both have a lovely day!

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MamaMotherMummy · 10/06/2015 02:34

:)

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stopgap · 10/06/2015 02:37

That is such wonderful news. I know exactly how you feel. DS (nearly four) had his first play date today that wasn't a son/daughter of one of my friends, and it heartened me to see him having fun with kids from school.

The future is very bright for your daughter, I'm sure :)

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ProudAS · 10/06/2015 06:27

Great for your DD

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Raffertys · 10/06/2015 06:27

This is wonderful. You and your dd sound amazing. I hope she has the best day with her friends Smile

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silverglitterpisser · 10/06/2015 09:07

Wonderful post Smile. Hope ur dd has an amazing day. Am sure she will Smile .

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BettyCatKitten · 10/06/2015 09:09

Your dd and you must be thrilled Smile

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AuntyMag10 · 10/06/2015 09:11

How bloody fantastic!Smile Hope your dd has a great day.

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thegirlinthebed · 10/06/2015 09:19

Smile
DS has aspergers - so I can just imagine how happy you are

Have a great day!

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FriendlyLadybird · 10/06/2015 09:23

That's wonderful -- and bowling parties are such good fun. You'll all have a whale of a time.

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Jacksterbear · 10/06/2015 09:24

Smile That's lovely.

(I have an 8yo with ASD too.)

Flowers

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silveracorn · 10/06/2015 09:30

That's lovely. I'm so glad for her.

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reallybadidea · 10/06/2015 09:34

That's so great. Hope she has a great time.

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Librarina · 10/06/2015 09:34

I'm so glad this is a happy ending. My DD is only 2 but I really hope that I can bring her up to be nice to others and accept party invitations happily. I've seen too many threads on hear from parents feeling sad about how their children are treated. Happy Birthday Little Miss Naughtylist,

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magimedi · 10/06/2015 09:44

So thrilled for you.

Happy Birthday, little naughtylist. Cake

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