To claim csa?

[Confusedfuzz]

Separated from husband a long time ago. He has hardly seen our dc. Doesn't pay a penny! Or a presents or anyhing. I asked him for trainers for ds and he brought him £4 ones from primark.

Anyway, I'm sick of it. I put a claim in for csa yesterday. Apparently they have been ringing him all day. This was clear due to all the abusive texts I have received. "You are trying to ruin my life" what paying for your kids?!
And "what did you expect when you walked away".. To be a father?!

Anyway. He's making me feel guilty. So aibu?

[Noneedtoworryatall]

No your not op.

your doing the right thing

[WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant]

I would ask if you had hooked up with my ex...
Couldn't afford a pair of croc copies for ds1, but managed to afford ice creams, meals out and B&B for himself and new GF...
If you get any luck with csa, let me know?
I haven't bothered claiming, as they apparently give you 15% of his pay.
15% of "sitting on his backside, too lazy to get a job" wasn't worth fighting for...
No. Ynbu. He needs to help out with his kids too!

[ListenToYourHeart]

You are 100% not being unreasonable!

He needs to realise even though he has walked away you can't just leave responsibilities. You might not be able to force him to be a dad, but you have every right to financial help in supporting & raising the children.

Good luck with everything, there's a lot of bad press about the CSA but I found them fairly helpful. Ignore the abusive messages, he obviously just doesn't want to face up to his responsibilities.

[wannabestressfree]

Absolutely- and block his number!
I would have responded with 'who is this'? Let them deal with it!

[Confusedfuzz]

Thank you all! I report all his abusive messages because he's made threats to kill.

I wish I claimed earlier tbh. £51 a week they think I'm entitled too, hopefully this is true

[MamaLazarou]

YANBU! Good luck.

[KissMyFatArse]

Good luck he's got away without paying for too long as it is.

Ruining his life?! Selfish twat

[meglet]

Yanbu. Go for it.