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Sick in my car!

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Thoughtfulduck Mon 08-Jun-15 20:38:54

Im a nanny, I use my own car and get paid mileage. One of my charges projectile vomited in my car...obviously I cleaned it as best as I could but I'm going to get my car valeted because of this incident.

Would I be unreasonable to ask my employer to pay or at least contribute?

PHANTOMnamechanger Mon 08-Jun-15 20:40:32

no YWNBU

meanwhile shake bicarb all over it, leave overnight and vac off, it absorbs nasty smells

whois Mon 08-Jun-15 20:41:17

Yes I think employer should pay for a valet.

MrsCs Mon 08-Jun-15 20:44:09

I've got to be honest, I don't use paid childcare yet, but I'd tell you no.

Thoughtfulduck Mon 08-Jun-15 20:46:31

Thanks for the tip phantom!

Mrs C, can I ask why?

PHANTOMnamechanger Mon 08-Jun-15 20:47:37

really MrsC? I hope you are in the minority, most parents would be mortified someone else had had to deal with that. What about if you were giving a friends child a lift home and they were sick all over your car? would you honestly just suck it up ? <rather gross pun but I like it>

MrsCs Mon 08-Jun-15 20:53:18

Well no offence but we have a cover on our seats to prevent this sort of thing. As a professional I'd have thought you'd plan for this, and my children have their own car seats. A parent giving my child a lift is a favour, I'm not paying them and expecting them to plan for such eventualities.

It is gross though and I can see why it's bothered you.

Thoughtfulduck Mon 08-Jun-15 20:56:46

yes I maybe should have a cover on but what about the rest of the car? It wasn't just on the seats, it managed to spray quite far <boak>

Thoughtfulduck Mon 08-Jun-15 20:58:14

I appreciate you giving me your views, that is what I posted here for after all.

MrsCs Mon 08-Jun-15 20:59:34

Again, if your a nanny though, would you expect a parent to pay for extra cleaning every time this kind of mishap occurs? It would be nice if a parent offers but I think it's wrong to ask.

mileend2bermondsey Mon 08-Jun-15 21:01:51

MrsCs youre being ridiculous. If the child was sick over OP's phone is that 'to be expected'? For the record neither I or any of my siblings have ever been sick in a car so Im not sure why youre painting it as some sort of predictable eventuality

MrsCs Mon 08-Jun-15 21:02:00

It's not personal, it's just childcare is very expensive and I would clean that kind of mess myself in my own car. Not got a valet budget myself lol. If your employer does, I hope they opt to offer.

LikeTheShoes Mon 08-Jun-15 21:02:59

I'm a nanny and use my own car, my boss pays for my car to go through the car wash every now and then (although usually with the kids inside...) and would almost certainly volunteer to pay for a valet in your situation.

I have an IKEA blanket over my seats which contains the mess a little, but I'm not going to clingfilm my car for the sake of a few hours a week! paying for a valet is much cheaper than you using their car AND they would have to clean it if you used theirs!

Thoughtfulduck Mon 08-Jun-15 21:03:01

I feel like this is a rare occurrence, if it was something like a spilt drink or muddy shoes I would just take it as part of using my car. I suppose to me it's a bit different because it's gross bodily fluids that are going to smell for a while.

Thanks for your viewpoint

MrsCs Mon 08-Jun-15 21:03:04

Mile, Op asked for my opinion I replied

SwearyInn Mon 08-Jun-15 21:21:20

A decent parent would pay without question.

But there are, sadly, people who would disagree. They are not wrong, they are just, IMHO, mean and have not been brought up properly.

I hope your employees are decent.

MrsCs Mon 08-Jun-15 21:24:01

So people who don't have the money to splash out on valet cleaning aren't 'decent'. Snobbery much lol

BarbarianMum Mon 08-Jun-15 21:24:05

If you using your own car is part of your contract then I don't think you can expect reimbursement for what is, in fact, a hazard of the trade. Children puke at inopportune moments - as nanny you must know this.

Purplepoodle Mon 08-Jun-15 21:27:19

I'm torn. If my childminder had my dc throw up in their car on school pick up or drop off I wouldn't offer to pay and if I was asked to pay I'd offer to go half. But then I'm skint and can't afford to even valet my own car.

PerspicaciaTick Mon 08-Jun-15 21:29:07

I think it is an expected hazard...but it would be kind of the parents to help cover the cost. Out of interest, if the child walked dogshit into your car after a trip to the park would that be down to you or the parents? Probably more revolting than vomit IMO.

SwearyInn Mon 08-Jun-15 21:30:26

no splashing out required - they could clean it themselves if so inclined. Decency not measured by disposable income. Any relationship, whether personal or professional will only be truly successful if both parties behave decently.

And I don't think contracts come into it, it's just simple human decency. I'd be mortified and I'd ensure the car was cleaned properly.

PHANTOMnamechanger Mon 08-Jun-15 21:30:28

come on Mrs C, if these people can afford to employ a nanny, what's a few ££ for a car valet? They are much more likely to be able to afford it than the nanny herself, no?
if they appreciate a good Nanny, surely they'd want to keep on the right side of her too? and not have her refuse to use her car to ferry the DC about anywhere?
taxis usually charge extra if someone pukes, this is no different really.

MrsCs Mon 08-Jun-15 21:35:45

For the record I'd be happy to offer to assist in cleaning, I just wouldn't pay a valet. For some people being able to pay childcare takes up a huge percentage of take home pay. Just because you can afford that doesn't mean you have large amounts of disposable income.

Flyinggeese21 Mon 08-Jun-15 21:38:14

Thoughtful when you handed the child back to parents did you mention the incident? I'd be willing to guess most would at that point offer to pay for a valet without you having to ask.

If that has not happened then I don't think it's unreasonable to ask at all.

That's the theory anyway, in reality, personally I am terrible at asking for money and I'd just hope like mad the offer came!

Poor child and poor for the clean up task! wine

Thoughtfulduck Mon 08-Jun-15 21:39:20

It's very interesting to read everyone's different takes on the situation!

Re: dog poo, I would probably see that as something I should've been more vigilant about, so cleaned it myself. It's gross but only a small amount can be walked in compared to the volume of vomit. There was nothing I could do to stop the puking happening, neither could the parents, but in that situation I think it boils down to who the child belongs to...obviously not everyone agrees!

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