to wonder how some people survive a day?

[thisishowiroll]

So, I'm a newbie here.

Just been reading through some of the threads in AIBU and literally cannot believe what I'm reading. I get that some of it is a bit of a giggle, but other threads, like shaving your foof when you're pregnant, dunking your bits after intimate time with your DH. Do you honestly need to bring this stuff to the table? At what point does it become appropriate to start a thread asking a bunch of strangers?

The internet is an astonishing place, I guess it takes all sorts.

[The5DayChicken]

It's anonymous here, love. People feel free to speak about things they normally wouldn't.

Why not just read the threads that you deem suitable?

[thisishowiroll]

Its not that I'm grossed out or offended. I just struggle to understand the mindset of sharing everything, but I guess if its anon then its easier. Some q's here just make me think "how do you get through a day on your own?".

That said, I'll be brave. The reason I was here in the first place was to ask a health question, but wasn't sure I was in the right place so started browsing.

Basically I'm having trouble with 'leakage' down below. Ive asked the doc and he just says its because my son was a big baby (10lb 7) and its to be expected. Its becoming embarrassing though, to the point I have to take identical spare trousers to work in my handbag just incase I have an accident.

Am I being unreasonable to want a 2nd opinion, or should I just lump it?

[spillyobeans]

Why go to a forum where people post anonymously if you dont expect to read that kind of thing tbh...

[thisishowiroll]

Its a fair comment. I didnt know what to expect really. I expected health chat and "mumsy" discussion. You guys though, just... wow

youve opened my eyes to what mumsnet is all about.

[SorchaN]

The leakage thing is an important question and it's too easily brushed off by doctors. Can you see another doctor at your practice and ask for a referral?

In the meantime you need to make sure your pelvic floor is in good condition. My GP told me the usual stuff about exercises to do, and that's all very well, but in my view it's not the whole story... to be blunt, I've come to the conclusion that plenty of orgasms are probably more effective toning the pelvic floor. It's a two way street - orgasms are also better when your pelvic floor is strong.

So yeah, I can see why you think that there's a bit of TMI on here, and I guess I've added to it. Anyway, good luck.

[MiscellaneousAssortment]

Yabu about your original post. However to answer your second question. How old is your baby? If it's just a few weeks postpartum then a lot of things still need to settle down and you need to be doing kegel exercises and building strength up again. However, it's terribly wrong you've been fobbed off by your GP, unless they were saying come back in x weeks? Otherwise, you need a second opinion.

I did an antenatal Physio course which was for my dodgy pelvis, but had women coming for a variety of reasons. they spent a lot of time telling us that no woman should ever just accept leaking and wee problems after birth, and that so many things can be done to help but they find it hard to turn the tide of 'just accept it', and women being fobbed off.

They ask everyone attending to try and spread the word as its so important. This was from a very good London hospital and I think it's great they are doing this.

Hope you get help as its shocking you're still expected to suck it up in this day and age.

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

You don't think people should over share. .but are asking about urine leakage?

[TheCunnyFunt]

Anything is a topic for discussion on MN, absolutely anything. Because it's so anonymous, it's the perfect place to have very frank and open discussions about, well, about anything! And because MN is just so huge, whatever your problem or question, there is almost always at least one person that can give you the advice or answer that you need. Get past the vipers and you'll find that MN is so incredibly supportive to those who need support. I've had my hand held a couple of times when my brother was horrifically attacked and almost died.

Now to your other question, there is/was (I haven't seen her in a while) a poster here named GussieGrips who is a pelvic physio, she specialises in all things pelvic floor related! If she's not still here, put 'Gussie Grips' into Google and you'll be able to find her that way, you could contact her and ask her for advice :)