I joined a martial arts class and really enjoy it BUT there is a woman there who is a problem to me. She is pretty much a beginner like me but she wants to tell me where to stand, pulls me by the sleeve or shoulder to stand in front of her (I think she likes to stand at the back of the class so that she can copy others in front of her in case she makes a mistake in front of the instructor). She constantly refers to me (I'm in my late middle age) as 'Darling'. She is overbearing and almost threatens me, saying that she used to do martial arts and was really good then, that she likes to punch people and hammer them (while looking at me pointedly!) She says she is a born winner and in fact does seem to usually win most things she does.
I'm a quiet kind of person and I'd normally keep away from someone like that but I can't - because we are at the same level I have to stand near her.
I really like everyone else in the club and don't want to leave, but my heart sinks when I see that she is training on the same day as me. I don't know what to say because I don't want a scene - I'm mortified by the idea that people will know I can't deal with her and think I am a wimp! I've tried to get on with her but I think she has decided I'm someone she can push around and she seems to like to do that. Everyone else seems to like her but I don't see her being with them the way she is with me. I'm embarrassed - I haven't been bullied like this since I was a child!
How can I deal with this as an adult without it becoming a scene?
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wishihadacat · 05/06/2015 20:16
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