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To have joined Mumsnet even though I'm not a Mum yet

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TravellingHopefully12 Fri 05-Jun-15 17:07:36

Hey, I really like Mumsnet and before joining spent hours browsing the forums for advice about cooking and stuff - but I am not yet a Mum. DP and I want children badly, but we're putting it off, mainly due to a medication I am on for Lupus (methotrexate) which can harm babies in the womb - but I am considering plucking up the courage to speak to my GP and consultant about coming off it (it's a big deal as it helped me a lot - but I want a child badly.)

Anyway, I just thought I'd come clean about not being a Mum yet - in spite of being very interested in motherhood and nearly desperate for a baby. So was it OK for me to join or am I kind of invading a space which is there for mothers to use and support each other? I will take either answer. Thanks

SurelyNotEh Fri 05-Jun-15 17:08:53

There are plenty of non-mothers, and even non-parents, here. Welcome smile

fiveacres Fri 05-Jun-15 17:09:04

I often think mumsnet would be better named womensnet.

Jenda Fri 05-Jun-15 17:09:33

I'm not a mum yet either, also resolving health issues first! I came on years ago to get advice on how to help a friend after a c section and I've stuck around. Great around and endless amusement. no one's ever been rude to me when I've said I don't have children!

TribbleNamedDave Fri 05-Jun-15 17:10:46

Hello Travelling, there are lots on here that aren't parents and have a great time. Welcome to the fold and get stuck in!

Floggingmolly Fri 05-Jun-15 17:11:31

Relatively few of the threads are actually about children... grin.
Welcome smile

StillStayingClassySanDiego Fri 05-Jun-15 17:11:59

I'm a Mum, my kids are grown up [youngest is 15].

I like frothy threads which have fuck all to do with being a Mother, I don't post much about my kids so I wouldn't let the fact you don't yet have dc's exclude you from joining in.

helenahandbag Fri 05-Jun-15 17:20:49

I don't have or want kids but I'm here all the time! I love the threads here, there are loads of lovely people and there's always great advice!

EllenWheels Fri 05-Jun-15 17:41:14

Not a mother (and still single so unlikely to be one soon!) but I find the mixture of people on this forum, and the advice given, cannot be found anywhere else on the internet.

I generally refrain from giving my opinion when the topic is specifically about children (as I'm also not a childminder/aunt/godparent/teacher/paediatrician/other job which means one deals a lot with children and so have more of an idea of what one is talking about than me), but otherwise, crack on!

Pipbin Fri 05-Jun-15 17:44:55

I'm not a mother and now know I never will be but I could never have got through IVF and my miscarriage without MN.

I agree, it is more WomansNet than Mumsnet.

Wigeon Fri 05-Jun-15 17:48:37


OstentatiousBreastfeeder Fri 05-Jun-15 17:53:43

I was a childless lurker before DS!

It definitely hastened the upduffing process, I have to say. You read some wonderful threads on here sometimes describing how lovely it is to have children and I defy anyone's ovaries not to twang reading them.

ToadsJustFellFromTheSky Fri 05-Jun-15 17:57:00

I have no children and have no desire to ever have them. I know there are also quite a few other posters who don't have children either.

Just a warning though, there are a few posters here who simply cannot get their head around the idea of people who don't have children posting and will question you on it. Obviously it hasn't happened on this thread but I've been asked what I'm doing posting here before and have seen a few other posters asked the same thing.

Luckily those people are in the minority though.

callmewhatever Fri 05-Jun-15 18:05:41

I'm glad it's called mumsnet and not womensnet, being male and all that. Whilst the vast majority of users are women, the site is very useful to both genders with many topics and rooms offering support over a variety of issues and not just limited to female topics or discussions. Welcome OP smile

MamaLazarou Fri 05-Jun-15 18:18:17

YANBU... You are very welcome here.

TravellingHopefully12 Fri 05-Jun-15 18:42:42

Thank you many lovely answers. I've posted once or twice before - but felt I had to let you know I'm not a Mum yet. It's good to know I'm not the only one.

It's a great place to chat, meet people and I really like it.

Thank you xx

Kewcumber Fri 05-Jun-15 18:42:45

I joined MN post failed IVF whilst going through the adoption process (prior to actually having an adoption section on here) in order to find local mothers I might be able to meet up with.

Found them, and a whole lot more.

Over the years MN has both driven me insane and provided me with sanity when I didn't have any spare for myself.

It's changed since I joined but I still can't find a forum I enjoy posting in as much overall.

tallulahturtle Sat 06-Jun-15 17:14:55

Not a mum and never plan to be, but I think this forum is brilliant and feel that it is more womensnet than mumsnet.

RedCrayons Sat 06-Jun-15 17:19:50

I come here to get away from my kids hmm
Joking not really

Sallyingforth Sat 06-Jun-15 17:57:41

I'm not a mum yet either. Came here initially to learn something about parenting, but found lots of other interesting subjects.
Hoping to take the plunge quite soon though.

Instituteofstudies Sat 06-Jun-15 18:11:12

My dd is 30 and I love mumsnet. I love style and beauty, chat, telly addicts, AIBU, which have all got loads of threads not related to parenting. I started a thread when I got an IKEA table I couldn't assemble, and some incredibly sweet women, talked me through the instructions. There is so much collective knowledge and wisdom on here, I'm sure nearly everyone could find something that interested them. The chat section particularly is about anything and everything. Welcome and enjoy.

Alisvolatpropiis Sat 06-Jun-15 18:28:27

Not unreasonable at all!

I did. There's lots of non-parents here.

LackOfAdhesiveDucks Sat 06-Jun-15 18:46:12

I'm not a mother, and don't want to be, but I enjoy this forum. There's always lots of new posts and many dont have anything to do with children.

happygirl87 Sat 06-Jun-15 18:54:15

I now have a DSD but joined Mumsnet when DH (then DP) and I first got together - welcome to Mumsnet flowers

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