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To think £40 is not too much to put in a wedding card?

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Chuckitinthefuckitbucket Thu 04-Jun-15 14:38:30

Going to the evening reception of a wedding tonight. Dp wants to put £20 in card, I say £40.
It was a small wedding ceremony and I've known the bride a couple of years. I think £20 would probably just cover what she's spending on feeding us and feel £40 is better to give.
How much do you guys put in cards (when they've asked for money instead of gifts)

Chuckitinthefuckitbucket Thu 04-Jun-15 14:38:53


TheOriginalWinkly Thu 04-Jun-15 14:40:17

£20 is plenty for an evening guest. I didn't ask for or expect gifts from evening guests.

MrsEricBana Thu 04-Jun-15 14:41:12

I think put what you can afford but I would say £40 more appropriate yes.

lipsynch Thu 04-Jun-15 14:41:56


mynewpassion Thu 04-Jun-15 14:41:58

Good friends I would do 40.

TestingTestingWonTooFree Thu 04-Jun-15 14:43:21

Probably depends on how much disposable income you have. I agree that £20 would only cover the costs of having you there, but they're not selling tickets. They've invited you because presumably they want you to attend so you can give whatever you like. I think I'd probably give £30 or £40.

MaxPepsi Thu 04-Jun-15 14:43:25

It depends.

We generally put £20 in for an evening reception.

SomethingAboutNothing Thu 04-Jun-15 14:43:41

I had this discussion with my DH recently. After talking to another friend going to the wedding we agreed £30, but I don't think £20 is unreasonable.

Siarie Thu 04-Jun-15 14:44:04

We usually do £100 for a wedding gift but lots of people have asked this before and basically it depends on how much you personally want to give. Whatever you can afford, out of the two options you've given I'd say £40 if you are good friends.

SlightlyJaded Thu 04-Jun-15 14:44:55

I know I will get flamed for this but yes, £20 is a bit tight. Not for any other occasion, but for a wedding - yes £40 is more appropriate.

BumWad Thu 04-Jun-15 14:45:04


Chuckitinthefuckitbucket Thu 04-Jun-15 14:46:17

She's a friend of a friend- but I'm turn my friend if that makes sense. We wouldn't spend time alone together but I'm part of a group of friends that she is too. We go out a fair amount as a group, she's a lovely girl and has just moved into her first home. I couldn't afford £100 and if she put £100 in my wedding cases I'd feel pretty guilty. I think £50 max.

CloserToFiftyThanTwenty Thu 04-Jun-15 14:47:15

If you can afford £40 why not?

Chuckitinthefuckitbucket Thu 04-Jun-15 14:47:20

Yes, I agree. £20 is more of a birthday present. £40 is more appropriate I think, but dp disagrees as we are "only evening guests"

Chuckitinthefuckitbucket Thu 04-Jun-15 14:47:54

closer because dp is a tight arse ha

RinkRashDerbyKisses Thu 04-Jun-15 14:48:24

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Jen1610 Thu 04-Jun-15 14:48:26

For an evening invite I'd put 30 I think.

Day I put 50-100

Jen1610 Thu 04-Jun-15 14:49:19

Rinkrash was that an all day wedding you attended?

ItsTricky Thu 04-Jun-15 14:50:21

Too late now but we tend to give John Lewis vouchers. I imagine cash to just get put in wallets and frittered away on bread and milk etc. With a voucher they would buy something to keep/use (or just fritter in Waitrose!)

Chuckitinthefuckitbucket Thu 04-Jun-15 14:54:03

Itstricky- I woulve done JL vouchers but they've asked for money. I think it's for their honeymoon spendings and doing up their new home. Hope it doesn't go on bread and milk but if that's what they need to spend it on then I guess that's that.

Fudgeface123 Thu 04-Jun-15 14:58:13

What does it matter if it was an all day wedding Jen1610, if you can't afford more then you can't afford more.

londonrach Thu 04-Jun-15 15:06:48

I dont live in mn world. Last evening wedding i went to wine glasses (£2 for 6 from supermarket, i wrapped each in tissue paper), pretty wedding bag and nice bottle of wine. It looked beautiful. Id have been pleased if someone had given me that at my wedding. Its the thought that counts and the fact the guest comes. Whole cost was less than £10. Bride sent very nice thank you card after event and is using the glasses as ive seen them. Ive never given £40 at a wedding even my sisters but then ive not had much money to spare.

HopOnTheMonnerBus Thu 04-Jun-15 15:11:06

£40 for an evening do of a friend of a friend is a bit much, I agree with your DH.

£20 is very generous.

smellsofelderberries Thu 04-Jun-15 15:16:31

£40, as long as you can afford it. Are you travelling for the wedding? We usually budget about £60 for a gift/cash, but none of our friends get married in our city so we always have to travel and usually drop £400+ on attending.

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