Don't know what happened when I posted this earlier!
I have an extremely close friend, been mates for years. With work schedules and city moves and other stuff, there is an ebb and flow of how much we get to socialise and catch up on the phone.
This year we had been in touch quite a lot, and had a couple of mini breaks away together, all good. I asked her if she fancied going on hols to Ibiza in August and she was up for that. I also asked her to a spa weekend with my cousin and she said she wanted to come.
I changed job then and suddenly life got a lot more difficult, I'm not getting on well in the job and have mentioned this casually to my mate. I tend to withdraw into myself when things are hard and so I haven't been taking her calls. I just counted and over the past month she has tried to call me EIGHTEEN times. What the fuck? The last couple of messages have been that she is worried about me as she knows that I'm having some serious family problems too and she's wondering if everything is ok with me. Also wanting to know if the holidays are still on.
Honestly, I feel bad in one way because it was me that suggested booking the trips away in the first place and I have suddenly cut off contact. Not ideal I know. That said I think she's got the message now because I haven't heard from her in a few days.
But 18 calls in a month, plus a few texts, is not ok is it? Surely she could have got the hint after um maybe 5?
Are we both BU? Or is it just her or just me?
I do like her, we are very close, but not sure if I want this friendship anymore even though it's been great in the past.
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Confusedandworriedwoman · 03/06/2015 18:02
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RinkRashDerbyKisses ·
03/06/2015 18:13
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