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To Ask For Surprise Party Organised Against My Wishes To Be Cancelled?

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freshstart24 Wed 03-Jun-15 06:56:53

I will be 40 in October. I don't party often, but despite being almost 40 I still enjoy going out sometimes. However, I hate being the centre of attention. I can't even bear to do something like walk to the front of an event to collect s raffle prize.
I have told all my nearest and dearest that i really really really would not like a surprise birthday party. I think I made it obvious that it would be a complete nightmare of an experience for me.

lucidlady Wed 03-Jun-15 06:58:07

Have they actually organised something? Tbh if you've told them you don't want a party, would they really go ahead and organise one?

DamnBamboo Wed 03-Jun-15 06:58:13

So are you now aware of this not so surprise party then?

GaryBaldy Wed 03-Jun-15 06:58:37

YANBU at all. Surprise parties are rarely a good idea.

DamnBamboo Wed 03-Jun-15 06:59:57

Why not Gary?
I've been to a few and they were well received.


Horsemad Wed 03-Jun-15 07:01:53

I don't think you WBU if you refused to attend. You have made your views clear. I wouldn't go if it were me as I'd hate a surprise party. Luckily, my family have always taken me at my word and never arranged one!!

MythicalKings Wed 03-Jun-15 07:04:44

That would be my idea of hell. I hate surprises. Those nearest tome would never do it but my workmates organised something for my 50th and I just had to grin and bear it.

00100001 Wed 03-Jun-15 07:05:17

Is this party actually happening??

Whichseason Wed 03-Jun-15 07:06:38

Why don't you suggest something that you would enjoy? Close family meeting for brunch and/or going out for dinner with friends.

hobnobsaremyfave Wed 03-Jun-15 07:06:47

My husband organised a surprise fortieth for me.
Whilst I appreciated the sentiment I have asked him never to do anything similar again.
It's certainly not for everyone

NRomanoff Wed 03-Jun-15 07:06:52

It would be my idea of hell and everyone knows this. I assume you have discovered one has been organised. Ywnbu to say you don't want it. Who organised it and why did they think it was a good idea when you had told them you didn't want one?

freshstart24 Wed 03-Jun-15 07:21:33

OP here- thank you for the responses. I'm sorry- I pressed post too soon on my OP.

Yes I have found that a party is being organised. I've started a second AIBU post with full details.

Sorry for the half post!!

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