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AIBU.. Hen weekend related

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Dothetwist Tue 02-Jun-15 19:57:04

My friend is getting married and is having a big hen weekend.

13 people have been invited and everyone has paid £200 towards a hotel, an activity, a meal and club entry.

There are around 2 individuals (myself and one other person) who only know the bride and noone else within the 'party'

There have been a few bumps along the way, and more expense for example buying two quite expensive outfits (including specific shoe styles) and then the cost of additional food / drink on the actual weekend. All fine i am happy to go along with as i adore my friend,

However.. I asked friends sister who is organising the whole thing about how the rooms are working, I've never done this before but another friend said when people had no link to anyone that individual would usually get given their own room.

She came back to me saying i would be sharing with someone, i replied okay that's fine aslong as it's a twin room as i would be very uncomfortable sharing a bed with someone I've never met on a hen weekend where this person would quite possibly be very drunk.

She's come back saying it's a double bed, AIBU to refuse to share and ask to be moved either with my friend that i know or to a room by myself..

A few of them have their own rooms, i.e. the ones who have organised, they all know each other so i feel very put out with the arrangements.

I will gracefully accept if i am wrong.. And go buy a blow up bed..

HelpMeGetOutOfHere Tue 02-Jun-15 19:58:36

Yanbu I wouldn't share a bed with a stranger either. Can the hotel not provide enough twin rooms?

GloGirl Tue 02-Jun-15 20:01:14

Yanbu, fucking hell at that price you'd want at least some niceties hmm

DownWithThisTypeOfThing Tue 02-Jun-15 20:02:41


if anyone has to share beds it should be the people who know each other.

MrsHathaway Tue 02-Jun-15 20:03:15

Yeah, I think it's a bit much to require strangers to share a double.

WipsGlitter Tue 02-Jun-15 20:03:47

Not unreasonable. Just make it clear you won't share a bed. Phone the hotel if necessary.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants Tue 02-Jun-15 20:04:02

It's a bit naughty of the organisers to assign themselves single rooms, assuming everyone has paid the same. Don't see why you can't share a twin-bedded room with the woman you know?

Bunbaker Tue 02-Jun-15 20:04:22

I hate sharing rooms with anyone other than my immediate family. I would put my hand in my pocket to pay for a room of my own if I really wanted to go. If I couldn't afford it I would drop out. Sharing a room with a stranger is a deal breaker for me.

Sconejamcream Tue 02-Jun-15 20:05:17

Not on at all. Single room or share with friend.

Osmiornica Tue 02-Jun-15 20:06:47

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

wanttosqueezeyou Tue 02-Jun-15 20:07:34

Yanbu. What a cheeky, grabby cow.

paxtecum Tue 02-Jun-15 20:07:40

Yuk. No way would I share a bed with anyone.

NinkyNonkers Tue 02-Jun-15 20:07:49

Unless the others are paying more, you have every right to expect a single or twin room. You're gown adults!

marshaF Tue 02-Jun-15 20:08:10

Yanbu!!! I wouldn't be happy with that and would want my own bed at the very least. Are you all paying the same amount? Seems a bit unfair that some get their own rooms if so..

Anothernumber99 Tue 02-Jun-15 20:10:24

This exact thing happened to me on a hen weekend except I wasn't warned in advance that I would be sharing a bed with a stranger so only realised when I arrived. Also the double bed was a tiny one and the lady I was meant to share with was a larger lady (not being size-ist

Dothetwist Tue 02-Jun-15 20:10:57

I offered to phone the hotel and pay for a room for myself but they don't want to share the name of the hotel as the bride doesn't know any details.

I've been told when booking that there were only double rooms available.. I have no idea why another hotel couldn't of been sourced to suit the needs of everyone.

So glad others agree with me!

CombineBananaFister Tue 02-Jun-15 20:11:09

have they paid extra for their own room or just dibs'd it because they've organised and see it as a perk of doing all the stuff? if they've not paid extra then I would expect the same in your situation - to have my own room too especially not knowing anyone. Who have they put your other mutual friend with?

Dothetwist Tue 02-Jun-15 20:13:11

I am also larger in size.. And hotel double beds are usually tiny shock

I don't like to rock the boat, and the bride has gone off on her bridesmaids for moaning over lots of details. But this is definitely a deal breaker..

Anothernumber99 Tue 02-Jun-15 20:15:04

... Posted too soon

Not being size-ist just stating the facts - it would have been VERY cosy in that tiny double bed with this lady.

I slept on the sofa and yes I was massively pissed off. I had also paid £400 for the hen do and all the other girls who knew each other well had taken the twin rooms. Selfish.

I now establish sleeping arrangements before I agree to hens etc

To be honest I don't even really like sharing rooms (unless with close friends) but hate sharing beds except for with DP.

Dothetwist Tue 02-Jun-15 20:15:04

The other person who knows noone else knows the bride only, also i only know the bride and noone else.

The bride has picked her maid of honour to share a room with.

Everyone has paid exactly the same, 3 people have organised it based on (in my opinion) what suits them and their interests.

CombineBananaFister Tue 02-Jun-15 20:15:15

So all the rooms are double but the organisers get one to themselves and some of you have to share but all paying the same price hmm

piss that for a game of soldiers, all share and bring the cost down or no-one shares and everyone chips in the extre

Bunbaker Tue 02-Jun-15 20:15:25

"I offered to phone the hotel and pay for a room for myself but they don't want to share the name of the hotel as the bride doesn't know any details."

So they don't trust you to be able to keep a secret?

CombineBananaFister Tue 02-Jun-15 20:16:14

YANBU angry

DustBunnyFarmer Tue 02-Jun-15 20:21:08

If they won't give you the hotel, can they at tell you the town so you can book your own room in a Travelodge nearby? I've only been on a handful of hen dos but they were cheap and cheerful piss-ups in the brides' hometowns. I couldn't be doing with all the faff and expense of a weekend away.

Anothernumber99 Tue 02-Jun-15 20:21:09

Could you just say that you have a medical condition that is quite embarrassing and you'd really prefer some privacy? And not to subject anyone else to it?
My friend has an illness that means she passes wind a lot and needs the bathroom a lot in the night so she tends to get her own room when she goes away

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