To be upset that Bruce Jenner has chosen my DDs name as her new identity?

[Soupsetrightnow]

Before anyone starts hating on me I am one for live and let live. I have no issues with transgender and other such things. I really do believe in just letting people be people and judging if I like people based on their actions and words NOT on their age/race/gender/sexuality etc. My erractic friendship circle is proof of this. However in this case I am really upset because of the following concerns:

My DD is already currently being bullied, both verbally and physically at school. She is a timid child and often comes home upset. School are helping but there's only so much they can do.

The name she has chosen is not just the same but the same (somewhat unusual) spelling.

My DD is old enough that there are kids in her school year who WILL see the magazines, covers and name in the press. I don't want to out myself but she is into double figures so not young kids here. We are talking hormonal kids old enough to see and understand this stuff.

Kids are mean and nasty. I've been there and my DD is already there. It took me 7 years to shake a nasty nickname I was given in primary school.

I am just dreading the bullying getting worse. It only takes ONE person to see it and start "Caitlyn was a man" and she could be stuck with it for years.

AIBU or I am I being PFB about this? Please someone reassure me I am over reacting :(

[AuntyMag10]

Yanbu, off course he set out to specifically make your daughters life a misery. How selfish of him to choose a name that somebody else owns.

[AuntyMag10]

Yanbu, off course he set out to specifically make your daughters life a misery. How selfish of him to choose a name that somebody else owns.

[Marshy]

You are over reacting.

Who is Bruce Jenner?

[Kitsmummy]

Total overreaction I think, Caitlyn's a very normal name, I dont think kids will particularly pick up on this. Sorry that she's being bullied though x

[MaidOfStars]

I have no idea what name Jenner selected (and not sure if 'Caitlyn' is the actual name - I guess not as that's a 'usual' spelling).

[Buildmeabuttercup]

I was teased because of my name so I understand but you are being unreasonable. I'm surprised it's even crossed your mind it didn't mine and my friend has a Caitlyn.

[SaucyJack]

I'm just surprised he didn't spell it with a K.

[sonjadog]

I suspect it may be a coincidence.

On the other hand, if you know Bruce Jenner and think he may indeed have done it on purpose, I suggest you mention your concerns to him.

[GladysTheGolem]

I'm more annoyed the daily mail have called her 'she'

Overreaction, Yabu but hope your school steps up.

[Buildmeabuttercup]

maid it is Caitlyn he's chosen

[yesiwouldlikefrieswiththat]

I came on to be a bit sarky, sorry

Reading your post though I actually see what you mean, I wouldn't have liked it in school either as a pre-teen/teen. Neither would I like dd to face more teasing from stupid kids who think it's hilarious

Yanbu

[SoldierBear]

You are over reacting.
And Caitlyn isn't an unusual spelling.
why not see it as a positive? Bruce was a great role model and Caitlyn might be too, going by what Bruce said about wanting to be an ambassador. It's a lovely name chosen after a long period of consideration by a very brave and loving person.

[LIZS]

Agree, you are overthinking this. Tomorrow's chip paper.

[TessBrookes]

If kids are going to bully, they'll do it regardless. If it wasn't a name, they'd find something else to pick on if that way inclined.
YABU, sorry but you don't have a monopoly on names. He had to choose one and it would always be someone else's somewhere!

[Soupsetrightnow]

I KNOW I am BU tbh but it's just bringing back sooo many bad flashbacks. At risk of outing myself there was an incident in my old school where some kids with the same name as a well known transgender person got some HORRIFIC abuse when that person came out. Kids are cruel as hell. I am already concerned for her just really really hope this doesn't end up being used to bully her.

The spelling is unusual here. I've not seen another. Usually you see Caitlin or Kaitlyn.

why not see it as a positive? Bruce was a great role model and Caitlyn might be too, going by what Bruce said about wanting to be an ambassador. It's a lovely name chosen after a long period of consideration by a very brave and loving person.

That is true and has really helped me thank you.

[Soupsetrightnow]

If kids are going to bully, they'll do it regardless. If it wasn't a name, they'd find something else to pick on if that way inclined.

They already do I just hope it's not used as something else to add to their arsenal.

YABU, sorry but you don't have a monopoly on names. He had to choose one and it would always be someone else's somewhere!

I am aware of this which is why I was hoping people would tell me I'm over reacting. I guess I'm looking for reassurance that I AM being precious and I won't be facing a repeat of my childhood with my daughter.

[Soupsetrightnow]

Are kids really interested in a middle aged MtoF transgender woman?

My niece reads gossip mags with Kardashians in and is similar age.

[MissBattleaxe]

I'm more annoyed the daily mail have called her 'she'

But she is a she.

[SoldierBear]

Glad I've helped.
Seriously, stress the positives to your DD and let her stand proud.
It's a great name and here's hoping Caitlyn Jenner has a great life and is a positive force.

[ElPathetico]

MissBattleaxe

Did you look at the DM picture?

[Lilicat1013]

I have heard Kaitlyn rather than Caitlyn was being considered, I think it is just another rumour. The previous rumour was that his chosen name would be Belinda.

I think it is unlikely he would choose a name that would be wrong for his age*, Caitlin and spelling variants have only become popular recently so it more associated with children and teenagers than adult women.

I don't believe Bruce will go for a trendy K name in the style of his daughters and step daughters, although the media love that idea I think it would be a bit odd to do that. I suspect the name was chosen some time ago as Bruce has kept his feminine identity secret for a number of years so wont be as current in style was as K/Caitlyn is.

I can understand your concern, when you child is being targeted you don't want the nasty bullies to have anything else to use against them and once they have a target they tend to use anything they can against them.

Hopefully it will be an unfounded concern and a different name has been chosen or if K/Caitlyn is the chosen name the bullies don't use it as a way to tease your daughter.

As I said though if they are targeting her if it isn't this it will be something else so it might be worth considering other options to end the bullying. Is moving school an option?

*I am using he because in a recently interview Bruce said he was still using male pronouns currently

[Soupsetrightnow]

MissBattleaxe I assume it's use of quotation marks that is annoying people. Using them implies it's a phase or not true etc.

[NorahDentressangle]

It's prob 20+ years since you were bullied, I would think transgender stuff would be a bit boring for today's kids.

But they will pick on something if they can but prob the other Caitlyn will disappear from the front pages within 6 months or so, if not before.

Caitlyn's a lovely name - for most of your DD's life Bruce will be a distant memory.

[FuzzyWizard]

I think YABU. Caitlyn is IME the most usual spelling (teacher in a girls secondary so come across a lot of teenage girls). I also think that bullying based on a name is unusual and I once came across a boy with the name Aynul, pronounced like anal. His year 10 classmates made no issue of it.
If bullies decide to pick on someone they will find something to target... names don't make someone a target from what I've seen of teenagers. Once someone is targeted by bullies they may be picked on for anything or nothing. It needs to be firmly tackled, trying to prevent your DD from having things to pick on won't make them stop they would just pick on something else. It must be horrible for your DD though and I understand why you might be irrationally upset by it.