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Cat wanting to come in. Who IBU?

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GertyD Sat 30-May-15 20:27:47

OK, so this happened a few weeks ago, but it is still bothering me in a way I can't explain. I don't lay awake at night or anything, but still...

I was in the kitchen about 6pm carving a chicken. My kitchen is at the front of the house, so people going past can see me if I am in there.

I was aware of my cat outside the front door, wanting to come in. He was mewing from time to time but not excessively or desperately pleading , but I wanted to get the chicken carved and away before I let him. He probably would have had to wait another 15 minutes. It wasn't cold or raining.

Anyway a lady with a little girl, who looked to be aged about 6 or 7 knocked at the door. Of course as soon as I opened it, the cat ran in (heady with the scent of chicken no doubtsmile). The lady said that she had been going past and saw that my cat wanted to come in, and could I please let him in as it was upsetting her daughter to hear him mew.

I had no idea what to say, so just thanked her (confused) and shut the door.

She was not a neighbour, I had not seen her before, or since. But I guess I am really surprised that she would even do that. My cat had only been out there a little while but she obviously thought I was cruel leaving him there at all.

I have much bigger problems in my life than this, but this still bothers me.

Was IBU leaving the cat out whilst I carved a chicken, or was she BU to knock my door and to let him in so her daughter was not upset? confused

Chchchchangeabout Sat 30-May-15 20:29:09

Easy. Everybody but the cat WBU.

The cat

RainbowFlutterby Sat 30-May-15 20:31:38

I've done that blush It was pissing down with rain though, poor cat.

GertyD Sat 30-May-15 20:32:27

The cat was given chicken he would otherwise not have got.

paddypants13 Sat 30-May-15 20:33:32

No Ywnbu! If my cat is anything like mine you'd spend all day opening and shutting the door at his convenience!

I would only have knocked if I could see the cat was injured or was being attacked and it was clear you hadn't realised.

Not to mention my cat would have eaten the flipping chicken by the time I got back to it. x

GertyD Sat 30-May-15 20:38:21

He was laying on the Welcome Mat more than likely. He is huge, and has dominated the entire area for the last 18 month's. Even attacking foxes and urban badgers. Real tough bugger. He certainly has never given of a vulnerable vibe before grin.

AyeAmarok Sat 30-May-15 20:38:49

YWBVU because:

The Cat shouldn't even need to ask to be let in - don't keep it waiting.

You shouldn't be trying to keep the chicken away from The Cat. You should be happy with whatever scraps The Cat deigns to leave you.

You seem to think it's your house; it's not!

bellathebluebell Sat 30-May-15 20:40:33

Don't be such a meanie and let the cat in!

Caterina99 Sat 30-May-15 20:40:48

My cat would mew at the front door to get in, scoff as much chicken as possible, and then run right back out through the cat flap at the back (which she can get in and out of perfectly fine) and then be back at the front sort mewing in 10 min. So yanbu!

kilmuir Sat 30-May-15 20:41:08

catflap, and speed up that chicken carving.!

MagpieCursedTea Sat 30-May-15 20:42:28

I assume you just wanted to make sure the chicken was cooked perfectly before placing the entire thing in your cat's favourite bowl as a lovely surprise for when he came in? In which case YANBU

MrsPeterQuill Sat 30-May-15 20:45:19


My cat will pace up and down the windowsill mewing her head off because she wants to come in. Even though she could come in through the cat flap hmm

GertyD Sat 30-May-15 20:45:25

Brilliant responses so far. Really making me smile. My poor cat. He has suffered. I need to up my game.wink

CamberwellCarrot Sat 30-May-15 20:49:17

Unless it was really cold or your cat was starving hungry YANBU and I think the woman sounds bizarre tbh. I would never knock on someone's door like that unless something ACTUALLY cruel / negligent was happening.

caitlinohara Sat 30-May-15 20:52:57

YANBU, but next time put it out of the back door wink

MammaTJ Sat 30-May-15 20:54:07

What kind of pet are you to the poor cat when you can't even share your chicken with it without being told to?

I am shocked!

really, the woman should have kept her nosey nose out of your business

SoozeyHoozey Sat 30-May-15 21:04:38

The hierarchy is as follows: cat is king, you are slave. so yes you were being very unreasonable to disobey a king's direct order.

violetbunny Sat 30-May-15 21:12:56

Awww poor little fellow. I'm glad he got to come inside if he was obviously so desperate to get in.

PaperdollCartoon Sat 30-May-15 21:16:45

I regularly leave one of my cats mewwing outside because he's an idiot who doesn't know the difference between a door and a window. We live in a first floor flat and recently he's worked out where the back of the house is, but hasn't worked out we can't let him in through a first floor window. He sits on the ground under the window mewwing for ages. If I open the front door and call him he doesn't seem to hear me. Stupid cat. If he comes to the front door I let him in straight away!

I think the women who knocked on your door was BU, who does that?!

Melonfool Sat 30-May-15 21:58:43

Next door's cat often mews at our door, I don't let him in, I'd be really miffed if someone knocked on the door and the cat came in as a result of me opening the door - and that someone thought I was being cruel to a mad cat who isn't even mine.

Plus my cat often mews to be let in (not at the front door though) and and then when you do he saunters away, so it's none of anyone's business whether he comes in or not, it's up to me.


hiddenhome Sat 30-May-15 22:00:02

The lady's kid needs to toughen up. She's going to see a lot worse than a mewing cat during her lifetime and life's lessons need to start early to prepare them for this.

The lady was being unreasonable.

Cats are always unreasonable, but that's just how they are smile

Trills Sat 30-May-15 22:06:28

Woman who knockd on your dor needs to get a grip.

You need to learn to carve chicken with your elbows in a defensive posture - were you expecting cat to take a flying leap and steal some chicken before you could stop it?

honeyroar Sat 30-May-15 22:07:10

How funny. I thought that I was over sensitive but even I could walk past a mewing cat!

I swear my two cats have a running competition going on to see who can get the door opened for them the most. Sometimes they mew at the front door, run through the house and miaow to go out of the back door. Saves them walking round the outside of the house!

6cats3gingerkittens Sat 30-May-15 22:09:21

I put the cats out before trying to dissect a chicken. One of mine actually stole a red hot bird from the oven, dragged it onto the lawn and growled at anyone going near him and his booty. He ate the lot and only suffered scorched paws from the oven.
I'd only diverted my attention to finding the oven gloves for a second or two, honest.
But he made a greasy mess of the kitchen floor and slept for hours while he struggled to digest our dinner. So ynbu.

caitlinohara Sat 30-May-15 22:11:25

My cats have 2 approaches: dcat1 goes batshit crazy, up on her back legs, pawing the window and miaowing as though she hasn't been fed for weeks and there is a pack of rabid dogs after her, dcat2 sits right up at the other window and just silently states through it at me like she wants to kill me. Neither are remotely effective, but there again I am mean.

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