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To Object to the Garden being used by our neighbours.

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MileyVirus Fri 29-May-15 19:28:13

When we brought our house we brought it because of its corner plot and large garden.

We get on well with our neighbours, they kindly asked if they could have a party at the end of our garden as they do not have the space in theirs.
We allowed them to use our garden because we wanted to keep the relationship good.

Yesterday I saw her put up a washing line in our garden! shock

Neighbour must have thought that we were out, because dh took the teens on a day trip and must of thought I was out with them.

I am not happy that our land is being used and treated as an extension of their garden. We were kind enough to the leave the gate between our fences open in case their dc kick the ball over. Put this is taking the piss. She didn't even ask me.

JoanHickson Fri 29-May-15 19:29:23

Fences/gates need to be sorted.

GammonAndEgg Fri 29-May-15 19:31:39

shock Have you spoken to her?

Fluffcake Fri 29-May-15 19:32:21

YANBU. Nip it in the bud now, politely but firmly. DB and sil had a hole in their hedge and came home one day to find ndn's kids bouncing on their trampoline. Hole got filled in.

MileyVirus Fri 29-May-15 19:33:00

Haven't spoken yet, I can look the gate because dh has the key on his keys and he's at the gym.

MrsItsNoworNotatAll Fri 29-May-15 19:33:30

Yanbu. I would not be happy about this.

Not trying to outdo you but I once looked out the window to see a woman up lived further up road standing on in my garden chatting to some children who'd congregated in that bit of my garden. I went out and not so politely asked to go away. The woman looked at me as if I was weird.

You know like my garden was a public garden or something confused

BlueBananas Fri 29-May-15 19:33:59

Bought. When you bought a house you bought it because of it's garden. You didn't bring it from anywhere, you bought it

MileyVirus Fri 29-May-15 19:35:33

Sorry Im posting on an iPad and terrible on the keyboard.

ovumahead Fri 29-May-15 19:36:17

OP you're not being unreasonable, you just need to confront ASAP. Awkward, but necessary! Cheeky buggers.

MissDemelzaCarne Fri 29-May-15 19:36:24

Bad form BlueBananas.

rockybalboa Fri 29-May-15 19:36:45

Oooh, wasn't there a similar thread about a swimming pool years back? The brass necked neighbours just didn't get it. Definitely get the gate locked.

And ignore BlueBananas' wanky comment. Some people need to get out more.

GloriousGoosebumps Fri 29-May-15 19:38:04

You saw your neighbour putting up a washing line in your garden YESTERDAY and you haven't taken it down / spoken to her about her cheek? She's clearly worked out that she can walk all over you...

usualsuspect333 Fri 29-May-15 19:40:09

Have you read the thread in site stuff about irritating posters who correct other posters, BlueBananas?

OP, Cheeky buggers, I'd have a word.

TidyDancer Fri 29-May-15 19:40:29

OP, ignore the rude pedantry.

Ask your neighbour if she's ever stolen a house in Mexico. Apparently she's a garden thief and it can only really be a slippery slope from there. grin

Joking aside, of course YANBU.

Smileyaxolotl1 Fri 29-May-15 19:41:56

bluebananas you meant its with no apostrophe....

And OP Yanbu.

BlueBananas Fri 29-May-15 19:42:41

usualsuspect no I haven't, but it can't be more annoying than deciphering posts that use the wrong words, repeatedly
I'm helping her grin

MileyVirus Fri 29-May-15 19:43:26

She put up the washing line at about 10am took it down at 3pm. I haven't been well so I didn't want to approach her. I think that we allowed them to use our garden has given her that impression glorious.

MileyVirus Fri 29-May-15 19:44:09

It's okay blue, I'm not that embarrassed smile.

usualsuspect333 Fri 29-May-15 19:45:40

Did she think you were all out? So her undies could have been flapping in the breeze and you wouldn't have known?

JoanHickson Fri 29-May-15 19:46:08

Is there a slot for a pole somewhere? confused

MrsNextDoor Fri 29-May-15 19:46:08

Just go and take it down OP! Shocking behaviour! If she says anything then say "Oh...I thought it was something I'd overlooked when we moved in...either way I don't want it there so down it comes!" and smile. Then don't engage in any further conversation.

MrsNextDoor Fri 29-May-15 19:47:02

Oh I see it's down! Well...I wouldn't wait for her to do it again...just say "I noticed you put up a washing line the other day...I'd rather you didn't do that again."

And then change the subject.

Fatstacks Fri 29-May-15 19:47:16

Is this attaching a line to a staple on your property or installation of a rotary pole?

If its the former then be miffed but, providing her under crackers don't end up on your side, I would leave it.

Sticking a full wash line in your garden though, throw it back javelin style!
saw Tessa S on telly last night

MissDemelzaCarne Fri 29-May-15 19:47:30

Fuck, I'm on the wine I missed the of it's garden! grin

mindthegap79 Fri 29-May-15 19:48:37

My inlaws have a tennis court (stealth boast, I know I know, I don't have a tennis court, but they do). One day mil came out of her greenhouse to find that the neighbours had invited friends over for a game of tennis, and they were sitting in inlaws' deckchairs. Mil was all muddy and they actually raised their eyebrows at her and then smirked at each other. She was so shocked that she didn't know what to do, so she just said hello and wandered off. The bastards. Later, enraged fil went round to lay down the law. It turns out their relative owned the land decades ago so they thought they were entitled to use it. They've moved now, thank goodness.

OP, YANBU. But I think you should have spoken to her there and then, before she hung her pants out to dry in your garden. Ruuuuude.

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