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I know feck all about cats, but surely this isnt right?! aibu to interfere?

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Dontunderstand01 Thu 28-May-15 18:01:38

Friend has just got kitten, 6 weeks old. She is going on holiday a week on sat, for a whole week. Kitten will be left alone, with someone popping in once or twice a day. Aibu to think the kitten is too small and likely to hurt herself? I have never had a pet (allergies) so I don't know if I am being ott, but I am concerned for the pet.

I have tried to mention my concerns but she dismissed them. If I call the rscpa, or the owner of her flat, she will probably think its me because I already said I was concerned. She also has fallen out with a neighbour and I worry if I report her she would unfairly blame it on her.

Cat owners-help!

fiveacres Thu 28-May-15 18:03:39

Cats are generally OK on their own but really the kitten should not be apart from its mother at 6 weeks. 8 weeks is the bare minimum and really it should be 12, although I gave ours away at 11 weeks as they were irritating the life out of everyone, including their mum.

SunshineAndShadows Thu 28-May-15 18:04:19

Kitten shouldn't leave mum til 8-9 weeks old, at this age it needs 4-5 feeds a day and regular social interaction. Your friend is a dick

ahbollocks Thu 28-May-15 18:04:35

Poor thing. Yes can imagine it would be extremely distressed. Could you have it for the week? Or one of her other friends?

ahbollocks Thu 28-May-15 18:05:21

And yes your friend is a dick
And yes it should be 4 times dail

WhetherOrNot Thu 28-May-15 18:05:59

Please do something about this. The kitten is far too young and small to be away from its mother for a start. Phone the RSPCA please.

pamish Thu 28-May-15 18:06:19

Six weeks is too young to be away from its mother anyway - eight weeks is recommended. It will be very lonely.

She should find someone who can look after it full time for the week. Keep it indoors, with a litter tray which it will still be using. (It can't go outside till it's had its jabs.) A week is not long and a lot of people would be happy to have a kitten for that short time, they are enchanting.

sanquhar Thu 28-May-15 18:06:19

yes, it's bloody stupid and irresponsible, but with someone so obviously dim-witted you're not going to get very far.

if it were me i would tell her to her face that if she goes on holiday without putting the cat in a cattery or temporarily back to the breeder then i will be informing the rspca.

why the hell did she collect the kitten just before a holidayhmmhmm

SirVixofVixHall Thu 28-May-15 18:07:16

Much much too small to be alone for a week. Why get a kitten if you are about to go on holiday? She could find someone to have it for a week surely?

FenellaFellorick Thu 28-May-15 18:07:32

6 weeks is just too little to be left by herself. It's cruel.
Not sure what you could do though. The rspca won't give a flying fuck, to be frank (going on my past experience with them)

Dontunderstand01 Thu 28-May-15 18:07:50

Thank you for the speedy replies. I am quite badly allergic to cats, and I work 3 days per week so not able to really help.

She has form for being thoughtless and immature but this is a whole new level.

Dontunderstand01 Thu 28-May-15 18:11:53

Sanquhar yep, you're right she won't give a fuck.

Vix, I have no idea, its a new level of ridiculous.

Fenella, will they not? Argh, in that case what do I do?

My DH is disgusted and said he wants nothing to do with her. I am scared to report her tbh, as she will know its me and the repurcussions from her family will be awful. I knew her from my younger years, iwould see her out on the piss. Now I realise I have grown up and she hasn't.

FenellaFellorick Thu 28-May-15 18:19:02

Well, I can't be sure that they won't, of course. But I reported badly neglected animals including a dog never allowed in the house and left in a back yard, rabbits left in a hutch frequently without water and a cat in a house with a child who attempted to drown it in a paddling pool and they declined to go out.

I doubt that a kitten with someone going in once or twice a day will be something they will give a damn about.

Some time later their chuggers had the nerve to telephone me, saying that they knew I was someone who loved animals and therefore could they count on me to set up a direct debit to the rspca.

I won't bore you with the details, but I left them in no doubt as to exactly what I thought of the rspca and precisely how likely it was that they would ever see a penny of my money.

And my case isn't unusual. If you AS the rspca on here, you will be shocked at the stories.

ItsTricky Thu 28-May-15 18:30:51

I know feck all about cats too but that is just cruel. Surely a kitten needs lots of loving contact? I can't believe they didn't leave it with it's mum until after their holiday.

hibbledibble Thu 28-May-15 18:36:34

An adult cat would be fine, I think, as they are pretty independent.

A kitten would need a lot more interaction if they are anything like puppies which are pretty much babies in terms of need

Then again I only have experience with dogs so am not the most knowledgeable about cats.

SirVixofVixHall Thu 28-May-15 18:38:26

I agree ItsTricky. Why not leave it with its mum? Then it would be nine weeks old which is about right to leave the Mum. She is treating the kitten like a fluffy toy. Horrible.

wtffgs Thu 28-May-15 18:40:02

Stupid woman - your friend, not you. A friend's kitten nearly drowned in the loo because someone left the seat up and kitty got curious. Friend is an animal loving vegan with a long history of responsible pet ownership.

She is clearly not fit to own a pet angry

SumThucker Thu 28-May-15 18:41:54

Your friend is a serious dick.

Welshmaenad Thu 28-May-15 18:42:13

Agree with Fenella that RSPCA are seventeen shades of fucking useless and will do absolutely nothing for this poor mite. I have similar stories.

loveliesbleeding1 Thu 28-May-15 18:44:20

My new boy is 15 weeks, and I would not leave him for a week, no way.Does she not have a family member she could leave the kitten with?.

loveliesbleeding1 Thu 28-May-15 18:45:29

I had no idea the rspca were so awfulsad

Gileswithachainsaw Thu 28-May-15 18:48:56

adult cat (s) fine.

tiny kitten who's too young to be away from his mum, will need 4/5 small meals a day and who could dehydrate/crash very quickly should he get stuck somewhere or get an upset tummy from being stressed or eating too much no sad

poor kitten. what a bitch

QforCucumber Thu 28-May-15 18:52:42

Christ our 2 are 7 and 3 years old and I didn't want to leave them!
what an awful awful person -and I'm guessing got it that you as people like the kitten stage, then loose interest when they're cats and kick them out on the street.
If you were in the north east I know a wonderful rescue place who will happily pop round and give kitten a real home.

bertsdinner Thu 28-May-15 20:28:45

Young kittens really shouldnt be left for long periods. Some cat shelters will only home them in pairs if you are out all day, apparantly they get stressed. 6 weeks is very young to be parted from it's mother, let alone being left on its own for long periods.

BertrandRussell Thu 28-May-15 20:38:54

Could you say roughly where you live? Perhaps you could suddenly aquire a "friend" who could have it for a week? I would, if it was anywhere near me.........

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