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I know feck all about cats, but surely this isnt right?! aibu to interfere?

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Dontunderstand01 Thu 28-May-15 18:00:36

Friend has just got kitten, 6 weeks old. She is going on holiday a week on sat, for a whole week. Kitten will be left alone, with someone popping in once or twice a day. Aibu to think the kitten is too small and likely to hurt herself? I have never had a pet (allergies) so I don't know if I am being ott, but I am concerned for the pet.

I have tried to mention my concerns but she dismissed them. If I call the rscpa, or the owner of her flat, she will probably think its me because I already said I was concerned. She also has fallen out with a neighbour and I worry if I report her she would unfairly blame it on her.

Cat owners-help!

Pipbin Thu 28-May-15 18:03:55

For an adult cat that would be fine.
Not really for a kitten though, not that young. I've only ever had adult cats though so I'm not sure. Someone wiser will be along soon.
May be you could call RSPCA or cats protection for advice?

TheGirlOnTheLanding Thu 28-May-15 18:04:59

No, I wouldn't leave a kitten that age on its own - it's only just left its mum and litter mates. I don't think I'd be happy to leave an older cat either if it had arrived so recently. They need a while to settle in. Why on earth did she take it knowing she was about to go away? Surely she could have arranged a more convenient date? Don't know what you can do though, unless you're willing to have it while she is away?

crassula Thu 28-May-15 18:05:16

At six weeks the kitten should still be with its mother. Definitely too small to be alone for a whole week. Can't anyone take it for the week?

Chippychop Thu 28-May-15 18:06:15

No way that's not right it's just a baby

Chardonnay73 Thu 28-May-15 18:07:36

Way too young IMO. I have a 6 month old and have just started to leave her with a pet sitter coming in twice a day, and even now I worry.

Can the kitten not go back to its mum for the week? Tbh, I though 10-12 weeks was the age for kittens to leave their mum? Aww I feel all sad for it now sad

ShowMeYourTARDIS Thu 28-May-15 18:07:56

6 weeks is so little. They can go downhill very quickly at that age. They should be fed 2-3x a day too.

Also, why did she get a kitten right before going on holiday?!?

bishboschone Thu 28-May-15 18:08:06

It's too young to be away from its mother . 12 weeks is more usual although we had our boys from about 6 weeks but I rescued them from being dumped so slightly different . The kitten will need to be with someone . At that age it would be better to go and stay with someone and be crated for safety , being allowed out at safe times for cuddles etc. poor kitten .

addicted2cake Thu 28-May-15 18:10:21

When I got kittens they were due to leave their mother at 8 weeks old just a few days before our booked holiday. I asked my friend who I was getting the kittens from to keep hold of them with the adult mother cat until we got back from our holiday.
I think at 6 weeks old a kitten should still be with its mother and that its definitely too young to be left alone with only a visit for feeding it twice a day.
You are not being ott, please ask the RSPCA for further advice.

championnibbler Thu 28-May-15 18:12:47

your friend is mean and thoughtless.
that kitten is only a baby. what an incredibly wankey thing to do, leaving it on its own like that!

ShowMeYourTARDIS Thu 28-May-15 18:14:47

I work at an animal rescue and we often get orphaned and abandoned kittens. They are usually okay without their mum as long as they have an experienced caretaker. We wouldn't let such a little kitten go home yet, unless it was with someone who had raised kittens before. Sometimes they aren't even eating solid (tinned) food consistently.

Optimist1 Thu 28-May-15 18:15:36

As PPs have said, 6 weeks is very young to adopt a kitten, and your friend is irresponsible to have given one a home before she was going away. At that age I would expect to be giving three feeds a day, and providing lots of stimulation.

Stinkersmum Thu 28-May-15 18:17:40

As per pp's, the kitten shouldn't even be away from its mother at 6 weeks, let alone be left alone for a whole week, that's horrifyingly cruel. angry

Welshmaenad Thu 28-May-15 18:18:30

I'm quite cavalier about leaving my adult cats with two daily drop ins from a neighbour but no way would leave a kitten that age. It should still be with its mum in an ideal world. She needs someone to physically take the kitten for the week.

ChubbyKitty Thu 28-May-15 18:19:14

Yanbu, 6 weeks is much too young, I'm surprised she's been allowed to take it so soon as mine was around 8/9 weeks when she came home - at 6 weeks she was still so diddy and still relying on her mum a lot!

I couldn't leave such a tiny one, especially if it will only been checked on twice a day, I'm sure the kitten food box says they need 3-4 small meals a day?

oddfodd Thu 28-May-15 18:22:06

What a stupid, stupid, selfish thing to do.

It's far too young to be apart from its mum and far too young to be left.

Your friend sounds like a very unsuitable pet owner.

hesterton Thu 28-May-15 18:25:12

The kitten will feel totally abandoned. Could she have one of its siblings there with it at least?

pumpkinpie5 Thu 28-May-15 18:28:33

I have worked for two national rescue organisations and there is no way we would ever be homing a kitten at this age. We home at nine weeks after first vaccination. This kitten should not be away from mum and litter mates let alone in a house on its own. Yes, it should b fed small meals three or four times a day, and could quite easily injure itself not to mention be very lonely and traumatised left on its own for that period of time. It is likely to only just have started solids and if with mum would be still relying on her. I would definitely report and I would also be very concerned about where she got it from as they are obviously homing kittens far too young and very irresponsibly.

flicksake Thu 28-May-15 18:30:05

Bloody irresponsible idiot. Please report this to the RSPCA.

MrsHathaway Thu 28-May-15 18:32:13

I agree with pps - kittens shouldn't leave their mothers until at least 8 weeks and preferably more like 12-13.

Poor little mite. It will cry and cry and shred every scrap of soft furnishings it can find. That might persuade her...

Chardonnay73 Thu 28-May-15 18:32:41

In fact thinking about this, I would report to RSPCA, poor little mite sad

sparkysparkysparky Thu 28-May-15 18:34:25

And this is why we are waiting until after we come back from holiday before adopting a rescue kitten. It needs time, love, play and attention to settle in.
I would report it to the Rspca.

PeppermintCrayon Thu 28-May-15 18:46:14

This is cruel and stupid. I would report it and frankly wouldn't give a shit if I lost a friendship with someone so selfish and heartless.

ArseForElbow Thu 28-May-15 18:51:07

YANBU to interfere at all, as PPs have said the kitten is way to young to be away from it's mother never mind left alone for a week, I would have to do something if it were me.

sparkysparkysparky Thu 28-May-15 18:56:50

Tell her about the mess it will make and tell her that its personality is formed in these early weeks. She is in for a lifetime of fearfulness on the cat's part if left so young.

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