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AIBU to feel annoyed at people being so insensitive and presumptious!

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Allstoppedup Fri 22-May-15 16:15:30

So I found out this morning that I am having another little boy. I already have a 17 month old DS who is gorgeous, funny, clever and generally awesome in my PFB opinion

Since this morning I have already had two people comment to say how "disappointed" I must be and how it's a "such a shame" because he's not a girl.

I didn't and still don't give a big hairy gonad what sex child I was having and am absolutely thrilled to be having another lovely boy.

I am still very pleased but have been honestly taken back by both of these people (one a neighbour and one a friend) and how negative they are.

My response so far was to smile and say something along the lines of why would I be disappointed, I make fantastic boys!

Dont know why I've posted really as I know it's been done to death but I just felt it really made me feel crappy when I previously felt great and wanted to rant!

WorraLiberty Fri 22-May-15 16:17:18

Meh! Ignore them.

And I say that as a Mother of 3 boys.

Congratulations btw thanks

TheOriginalWinkly Fri 22-May-15 16:17:42

People are fucking idiots. Death stare them until they go away and be fucking idiots in someone else's air space. Congratulations on DS2 smile

EElisavetaOfBelsornia Fri 22-May-15 16:18:57

How fucking rude. And ridiculous! Congratulations on your little boy, ignore the dickheads.

PunkrockerGirl Fri 22-May-15 16:20:56

YANBU. Ignore them.
(Mum of 2 gorgeous adult boys).

TedAndLola Fri 22-May-15 16:22:40

Unlike many on here, I think personal gender disappointment (should be called sex disappointment) is valid and not something to be ashamed of, but telling someone ELSE you are disappointed about the sex of their baby is awful and totally unreasonable. Congratulations on your second little boy.

Charlotte3333 Fri 22-May-15 16:24:04

Oh god I had loads of that when I was pregnant with DS2, people sometimes are full of mistaken belief that your life is only complete once you have one of each brand of child. I have two boys and never for a second wished either away. Boys are splendid little creatures, two of them has made our family twice as hilarious. Congratulations flowers.

0x530x610x750x630x79 Fri 22-May-15 16:25:54

my neighbour had someone say "are you going to stop now you have a boy?" after having 2 girls before.
People are fuckwits

BettyCatKitten Fri 22-May-15 17:26:12

Yanbu, rude and insensitive. When people asked me what I was hoping for when I was pg, I used to reply 'a baby'grin

Allstoppedup Fri 22-May-15 17:36:09

Betty grin

We found out for practical reasons! I wanted to know if I needed to keep hold of the baby boy clothes mountain in the loft! grin

It's just daft though, granted gender disappointment can and does happen but why assume everyone wants 'one of each'!

Holden10 Fri 22-May-15 17:36:12

'A big hairy gonad' has just had me crying with laughter

Congrats on ds2 and yadnbu!!

Writerwannabe83 Fri 22-May-15 17:46:15

I had a dad tell me the other day, as he was holding his new DS, how he "didn't want a boy but he's here now I guess" and I was stunned. I had no idea how to respond.

I was shocked that some people really do feel disappointed in what sex their baby and openly talk about it. I felt quite sad for the baby and I hope he never hears his dad say such a thing in the future sad

Congratulations on your pregnancy flowers

yellowdinosauragain Fri 22-May-15 17:53:35

Another mum of 2 boys here who got this. Plus 'when are you trying for a girl?'

Ignore and pity them. And massive congratulations on your lovely boys!

Alyx80 Fri 22-May-15 17:56:24

I have 4 boys - the comments haven't got better!

freshlysharpenedpencils Fri 22-May-15 17:58:04

I'm due to have second boy soon. I got a lot of "oh you'll have to try again next time for a girl" PISSED ME OFF majorly - but they are just trying to think of something to say... And I don't think they mean any harm. Good luck with your gorgeous boys - boys are the best :-)

ARightOldPickle Fri 22-May-15 17:58:59

I had a neighbour peer in the pram at DD3 and say never mind dear, they're all blessings aren't they? Wtf? People can be so rude and thoughtless at times - ignore them.

And congratulations!

PatsyNoPasta Fri 22-May-15 17:59:42

People are twats. With twatty opinions. Ignore. Boys are lovely. Mine drop in and see me all the time. My daughters only ring me when they want cash grin YANBU.

SuffragetteCity Fri 22-May-15 18:00:37

Yep, 2 boys here, and our family is complete! grin Yanbu, I still get asked frequently if we want to "try for a girl" and it gets tiresome.

Minisoksmakehardwork Fri 22-May-15 18:00:52

Yanbu. I was deemed 'lucky' to have one of each. Then we had twins. Also one of each.

It was so funny watching people gape when they commented 'oh how lovely, your family is complete' on seeing baby twin girl and boy, and we replied 'yes, their big brother and sister are thrilled too'.

Now the twins are older, and look nothing like each other, we are left well alone. Unless we happen to be out en masse as a family.

Noteventhebestdrummer Fri 22-May-15 18:01:08

I have 5 boys. I used to tell rude people that if I'd had girls I'd have given them away.

Weathergames Fri 22-May-15 18:03:10

When I had DDS after DS1 loads of comments about how I would stop now I had a "pigeon pair" hmm

I think DS2 is glad I didn't smile

Anniegetyourgun Fri 22-May-15 18:03:14

Two boys! Gorgeous! I liked boys so much I had four.

<disclaimer: I am not qualified to discuss girls although I am willing to accept that they, too, can be gorgeous>

Weathergames Fri 22-May-15 18:03:25

DD sorry

donemekmelarf Fri 22-May-15 18:06:43

Congratulations! You're having a beautiful baby boy! flowers

rembrandtsrockchick Fri 22-May-15 18:15:14


I had two boys...loved every minute of it.

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