Dd1's school trip needed paying for today. I've already paid the deposit. The balance needed paying for.
I carefully planned the week we were going to pay the balance to be 'no bill week', I would have enough to pay the balance, do our usual food shop and then have about £30 left over.
That was until I got sent home ill from work, with no pay (that's a whole other thread, my boss royally takes the piss out of zero hours contracts. He just gave me zero hours for the week I was sick)
I had to ask ex to contribute to the school trip. Being a complete and utter tit he told me he could not give me cash because he had no guarantee it would be spent on food for the children and not "animals, fags and drink" so he told me he'd pay for an online shop for me.
He wanted to go into the 'my favourites' bit and just buy my usual weekly shop for me, however I don't shop online so there was no favourites. I had to tell him what I normally buy.
Obviously we always buy lots of berries from the grocers at the top of the street when they're going off and lots of seafood because dd2 doesn't eat meat or fish and I frequently use 4 different kinds of disinfectant for various areas around the house bleach, I use bleach and washing liquid for almost everything
The children each like a different cereal each and I don't like cereal, I eat seeded bread and tuna for breakfast I don't eat breakfast. Of course the children only like white bread.
I now have more berries, bread, cereal and disinfectant than I'd usually use in a month.
Smoothie anyone? The blender has just been sterilised 
AIBU?
I was unreasonable and I don't care.
D0oinMeCleanin · 21/05/2015 11:13
I have no clue, election, I did ask him to do that.
They have an online payment system too, but he "doesn't trust it" 
I didn't want the balance paying, just the cost of my usual food shop, which is around £30. I had the money for the trip, just nothing left for food for the week.
His twatishness worked in my favour for once.
ooh that reminds me I need to use up my cherries smoothies for the kids later
but yeah, why wouldn't he just pay the school fir the trip if he was that bothered?
Fair enough then, enjoy your seafood and fruit bonanza not together obviously
There are 3 of us, Feminine.
I usually only get the store cupboard basics and packed lunch stuff from the supermarket.
Pet food is bought in bulk online. Cleaning supplies from wherever they are cheapest at the time (usually Wilkos or Home Bargains) and fresh meat, veg and fish from local grocers, allotments, butchers and fish mongers (and sometimes kindly fishermen I come across when walking the dogs). I tend to buy what's cheap/in season/on offer at the time. We're also lucky in that we eat at relatives a couple of times a week, which drastically reduces our food budget.
Obviously I didn't explain all of this to ex
I do think it was another of his control freaky weirdo issues. He knew if I had to pay for all of the school trip from my bank/savings then I'd have nothing left of my own for the week, whereas if he'd paid the school I'd have had money of my own left to do with as I pleased once I'd paid the remaining amount for the trip.
He has a mistaken belief that I am buying dd2 a budgie for her birthday, which will be where the spending money on animals comment came from.
I suppose it is grabby but he paid £0 for the last school trip, which was £260. This one is £220, by the time he applied his loyalty points and discount codes he'd scoured the web for the food shop cost him £45. He's already told me he is expecting my aunt to buy dd1 whatever clothes she may need to take because she earns about £100k more than him, so why should he pay, when she can
She is indeed on a high wage, she is also childless and has no responsibility to dd1.
I feel my taking the piss with the shopping was justified even if it was spiteful and grabby.
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Of course, if he had ever done his share of the cooking and cleaning, he'd know this wasn't your typical weekly shop, wouldn't he? 
He has only himself to blame...
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