Background: Ex and I have been divorced 3 years, 3 DC he has one overnight a week, attends all school stuff and is involved with DC out of school events etc. We get on reasonably ok, but only contact is around DC etc.
Four weeks ago he text to say he needed DC on a Sunday (not his usual day) for a christening they were going to. I replied ok no problem just let me know times (he needed them 10am - 6pm).
He turned up at 10am and I sent kids outside. Two seconds later he knocks on the door and asks why they aren't ready? I asked what he meant, he says why aren't they in christening clothes (in other words special occasion outfits).
It hadn't occurred to me that he expected me to provide outfits suitable for a christening, they were clean and dressed in normal clothes but I had done the girls hair as he can't put it up in plaits. I don't have special occasion clothes for them, the last time they needed them was a year ago for a wedding and they've grown out of them.
He then says well the christening is at 11 where the hell am I supposed to get clothes from now, you knew I was taking them to a christening etc etc. I said 'well its not really my responsibility sorry'. He stormed off with the DC and took them to the christening in their normal clothes.
Later on I got a text saying how ridiculous and embarrassing it was taking them in normal clothes and why didn't I mention to him that he would need to bring clothes. TBH I presumed he would be picking them up and taking them to his to get changed. He has clothes for them at his house and they ware 'his' clothes when they are with him.
So AIBU in thinking it was his responsibility? Or would you have put them in 'special' outfits
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Turntopage36 · 19/05/2015 09:13
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