Or was this man really rude?

(109 Posts)
DextersMistress Thu 14-May-15 12:16:11

I'm at dm's with dc. DM had a man come to cut the grass and dc were on the step watching him. When he finished, he had a little chat with them (and DM)
He asked their age and remarked that ds2 is big for his age (true)
DM said yes, and they're like chalk and cheese aren't they (also true)
He said what? They're brothers?
DM laughed and said yes.
what, like proper brothers or is one the milkman's?


DM seems to think it wasn't rude and just an observation. I think it's a horrible comment. Aibu?

Samcro Thu 14-May-15 12:17:57

its a joke
an old one
but a joke

whatsthatcomingoverthehill Thu 14-May-15 12:18:26

It's just a joke, emphasising how different they are.

ThereIsIron Thu 14-May-15 12:18:55

YABU. Just a throwaway lighthearted comment.

SweetPeaSoup Thu 14-May-15 12:23:42

No, that is bloody rude. A joke it may be, but one that operates on calling into question a woman's sexual fidelity (lighthearted or not) is not on.

FanjoForTheMammaries Thu 14-May-15 12:23:52

It's a joke

emms1981 Thu 14-May-15 12:25:58

Its a joke, my children look nothing like each other but are full siblings, I would even say the same my self haha yes one is the milkman's. Joke Joke

TheCowThatLaughs Thu 14-May-15 12:26:28

Yes it's a well-worn traditional joke, to be used in these circumstances. Does anyone else remember the vosene advert with the family with one red haired child and a red haired milkman? Or am I really old?

pudcat Thu 14-May-15 12:27:07

It's a joke as old as the hills. My sister and I are totally different and I look nothing like the others in my family. Used to be an ongoing joke. Nobody thought it was offensive.

imjustahead Thu 14-May-15 12:27:35

old school parenty joke

MythicalKings Thu 14-May-15 12:27:58

YABU, as others said, it's a very old joke.

Allinson2014 Thu 14-May-15 12:28:17

It's a joke, just not a very funny one. I get asked it all the time as myself and exDP have blue eyes same as DC2, but DC1 has brown eyes!

ludmiliana Thu 14-May-15 12:30:00

It's a joke, but it's a bit of a tactless one to be cracking these days, when lots of families are blended, and might have different fathers!

budgiegirl Thu 14-May-15 12:31:46

YABU - its just a joke !

I've used it about myself, my children all look very like my DH, and if anyone comments, I have said 'You can certainly tell they're not the milkman's"

I think you being a touch oversensitive, and it's definitely not offensive.

maz210 Thu 14-May-15 12:32:22

I use this joke myself, my husband, myself and our daughter all have dark brown hair and brown or greeny brown eyes. Our son is blond haired and blue eyed grin

It's honestly not meant nastily, I'd hardly be calling my own fidelity into question!

PuppyMonkey Thu 14-May-15 12:32:40

It's just a joke but your mum should have played along and said "yes actually you're right - it's our dark family secret." And pretended to cry. grin

ThreeQuartersEmpty Thu 14-May-15 12:32:46

YABU. its just a joke, a bit of something to say.

firesidechat Thu 14-May-15 12:32:56

That one is as old as the hills and almost guaranteed to be trotted out in the conversation you describe. It's tired, unoriginal and nothing to be offended about at all.

SurlyCue Thu 14-May-15 12:34:14

Yes its rude and a sign of his ignorance. Brothers dont even have to be blood relate to be brothers FFS! Who questions a child's parentage right there in front of them? Especially someone who it has fuck all to do with.

crymeariverwoo Thu 14-May-15 12:34:37

YABU. I don't think it has anything to do with a woman sleeping around haha just that they are so different! We say my brother is the milk man's because he is normal unlike the rest of us ;)

balletnotlacrosse Thu 14-May-15 12:35:01

It's a very old joke. I can't believe anyone would take offence (unless, of course, they had been having it away with the milkman).

CaTsMaMmA Thu 14-May-15 12:39:27

is it specifically milk men you find offensive? Or all delivery type employees?

BitOutOfPractice Thu 14-May-15 12:39:41

It's just a throwaway comment. Lighthearted.


TurnOverTheTv Thu 14-May-15 12:40:47

Some people take offence to the tiniest things these days.

gaggiagirl Thu 14-May-15 12:43:11

Its just a joke. Our little family get it all the time. Only I did ride the milkman and now DH is getting suspect grin

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