There's a lot of back story and posted a previous thread about a horrid MIL where it was a pretty unanimous.. she's a nasty piece of work.
Anyway, before all the heart break of the last 5 months we named DD (now 6 months) after my aunty and MIL. My aunty died in January the day after meeting DD and was desperate to have seen how grow up, she cried apologising that her only regret is not being able to watch her grow. MIL has written DD out of her life and tried to have her removed from us by social services and won't even acknowledge her existance. Tells people she has two grandchildren, not three etc.
OH suggested that he wanted MILs name taken out of DDs and I'd not thought about it until then but now I've thought about it I do, it breaks my heart that someone who can't even acknowledge she exists is honoured in the same way as an aunty who held on just long enough to even meet her. I agree I want it changed but I don't want to be doing wrong by DD. Me and OH have more or less agreed that if she won't acknowledge DDs existance, then to DD she does not exist.
What would you do? I'm so so hurt recently that I just don't know what to do, but my heart doesn't want my daughter having any connection in person or in name to her. Head or heart?
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Beth2511 · 12/05/2015 22:20
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