I'll try to be brief. I had an interview for a job recently, which I heard I got today. (Yay!)
On the day of the interview, DH tweeted - tagging me - saying the name of the job, and how proud he was that I'd got an interview. I saw this as soon as I came out of the interview and asked him to take it down, which he did straight away. My reason was that I was worried that colleagues etc might be able to see the tweet (I don't fully understand who can see what, but assume twitter is basically an open site). I was clear with DH about these reasons, saying that I'd been super-careful not to put anything on social media, as I was worried about colleagues seeing anything. I said that I realised it was kindly meant, but that it was inappropriate to broadcast confidential information in this way.
Today, I got the job. Within five minutes of telling DH, he'd tweeted to say "Feeling very proud of DontTweet - brilliant to have some good news!" He also put the same message on Facebook, tagging me. I have timeline review (so it'd didn't go on my timeline), but within a few minutes a mutual friend had asked "ooh, what's she done?". DH and I have mutual Facebook friends who are my colleagues, and whilst some of these are from the wider organisation, others are from my department - given the senior nature of my role, it's really important I'm careful about how people hear the news of my job. I've been very careful who've I told about the application. Again, DH took down the FB and twitter messages as soon as I asked him too, which I was relieved about.
I'm really pissed off about DH making an announcement - even though it was "discreet" (his word) it invited questions. I also think it's for me to make the announcement, as and when I want, and DH can show public support at that stage, if he's so inclined. There are loads of details to be worked out, and it's highly likely but not certain that I'll accept the job.
I also said to DH that I feel like the announcement is more about him (being seen as supportive) than him actually being supportive by responding to an unambiguous request from me about social media and the status of my application. He's furious about this, and says that I've offended and hurt him. AIBU?
AIBU?
To think that announcements on social media should be made by the person with the news?
donttweetwhereyoueat · 11/05/2015 22:05
IFinishedTheBiscuits I was prepared to be annoyed on your behalf there, though see the circumstances were slightly unusual 
YANBU!
I would be furious, but my DH would never do that (thank goodness!)
It's childish and ridiculous and if the new employer had seen they would likely view it as highly unprofessional - especially if for a senior role as you say
Putting it on social media is only ok once contracts signed, references done and start date within next week or so IMHO
We once had a candidate publicly tweet us saying 'aww couldn't believe I didn't get the job 
' - this was for a v senior role and highly inappropriate for him to do!
Is it possible that he actually isn't happy at your success op? Maybe feels outshone, 
and is doing something (twice) that he knows will make you feel uncomfortable and could even sabotage things and then stropping around when you react to that?
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Thank you all. I feel relieved that others share my views on the situation. DH said that he "wanted to celebrate my job" to which I replied that he can celebrate publicly when the news is public. And I'm ignoring the strop 
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