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AIBU to think that charging rent from a child whilst in finL year of A-levels is not on?

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Pony74 Fri 08-May-15 21:13:36

Is this normal? Thank you.

Pony74 Fri 08-May-15 21:16:10


AnyFucker Fri 08-May-15 21:17:16

which part are you playing in this scenario ?

6031769 Fri 08-May-15 21:17:17

Depends on situation, if they had a job then maybe a small amount to teach the value of money

SoonToBeSix Fri 08-May-15 21:18:15


GobbolinoCat Fri 08-May-15 21:20:42

no its not on.

ashtrayheart Fri 08-May-15 21:21:15

Dsd is 17 and at college. She earns a decent amount from her part time job but we wouldn't charge her rent until she is working f/t and no longer a student.

Lunastarfish Fri 08-May-15 21:21:50

how old is the child? At 17 it may perhaps be a little mean depending on the circumstances but if the 'child' is actually an adult then that's different

CupidStuntSurvivor Fri 08-May-15 21:22:45

You bumped after 3 minutes? Give it a chance.

Pony74 Fri 08-May-15 21:27:23

Anyfucker, it's my daughters friend and I'm trying a sense check on how I feel about it. The child is 17/18 and in the final year of school.

Don't have a massive go at me I'm just trying to work out if IABU about this?

Do I really need to bang on about how long I've been on mn. Lemon drizzle etc?

Pony74 Fri 08-May-15 21:28:55

Cupid, I bumped because the thread wasn't showing until I did that. Sorry.

Corygal Fri 08-May-15 21:28:59

It's mean.

Pony74 Fri 08-May-15 21:32:44

Thanks. I guess I'm just trying to gauge how I feel about it because to me it feels so wrong. Can you really charge a child rent whilst still at school, even though it's a levels?

CupidStuntSurvivor Fri 08-May-15 21:34:11

Depends on the circumstances anyway. It can teach a young adult (17 years old?) about budgeting and bills so can be useful for a teen that's not great with money. Also, some parents do this as a way of getting the teen to save up money for themselves for uni indirectly.

Akire Fri 08-May-15 21:34:13

Only if the family are really skint and his money is paying for the basics, or he's earning loads and it's a small %. If he's just on min wage and already paying for all his own clothes and phone bill and then rent is bit much.

Pony74 Fri 08-May-15 21:37:21

She's only got a call centre job to supplement a levels.
I personally think this is awful but posted here to get another point of view.

amybear2 Fri 08-May-15 21:40:54

Her parents are still getting child benefit and child tax credits for her.She should not be working at thye moment either.She needs to be concentrating on her exams.

AuntyMag10 Fri 08-May-15 21:41:57

Definitely not on.

Tequilashotsfor1 Fri 08-May-15 21:47:39

I don't think it's any of your buisness really ( in a nice way!)

I had my own place at 16 and learned how to manage money very quickly.

Dd1 had a part time job while at school and she had to (after a discussion) give me a small part of it for savings. If I wasn't financally secure I may have used it towards food ect...

It's all a learning curve.

Alisvolatpropiis Fri 08-May-15 22:08:51

It's completely unresonable.

todayisayesterdaystomorrow Fri 08-May-15 22:14:25

Unreasonable unless extremely hard up.

Tequilashotsfor1 Fri 08-May-15 22:18:52

Why? Why is it unreasonable to contribute to the family home / regardless if your rolling in it?

hidingfromthem Fri 08-May-15 22:19:17

its hugely mean indeed.
unless - the whole household is on the knife edge of being sent to the workhouse - otherwise it does seem incredibly grabby.

Norfolkandchance1234 Fri 08-May-15 22:22:02

I personally would never charge rent in this situation but I don't know the full facts of the situation from either party so can't really comment.

Alisvolatpropiis Fri 08-May-15 22:23:45

I think it is unreasonable to charge your child rent when they still at school.

Pay for their own phone/clothes/hair cuts etc yes absolutely. Rent? No.

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