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To ask if you've ever known anyone who has never been in a relationship?

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peachblossoms Thu 07-May-15 17:04:23

And if you did, what were they like as a person? Were they quite peculiar?

MangoJuggler Thu 07-May-15 17:06:53


avocadotoast Thu 07-May-15 17:07:08

One of my friends hasn't had a relationship to the best of my knowledge. She's perfectly normal! (Late 20s.)

helenahandbag Thu 07-May-15 17:08:37

Yes, my best friend is almost 25 and has only ever had one random kiss in a nightclub. She has never had a boyfriend and never had sex.

She is absolutely lovely, beautiful, well educated and makes me laugh like a drain. It's not that she's not interested, she just hasn't found anyone right.

Shakirasma Thu 07-May-15 17:09:46

I know a few, all in their 60s now. All lovely and in no way odd.

cashewnutty Thu 07-May-15 17:10:35

I have a relative who is almost 50 and has never had a relationship. She is a little bit strange and a bit over invested in her parents but pretty harmless. I have another relative who is almost 60 and never had a relationship and she is FAB. She is slightly eccentric and everyone loves her.

Hakluyt Thu 07-May-15 17:11:58

Good Lord. Yes to your first question, plenty. And no to your second. Or no more peculiar than people I know who are in relationships.

TheTravellingLemon Thu 07-May-15 17:12:08

Yes, I know someone in their thirties. Not odd exactly, but definitely a difficult person.

MyCatIsAGit Thu 07-May-15 17:12:44

Friend in his 50s, don't think he can be bothered with it. Really very normal (well as normal as any of my friends who have been in relationships.)

SallyMcgally Thu 07-May-15 17:13:04

I didn't have a relationship until I was 28. I kissed a couple of people. Went out with someone for 3 days and someone else for ten days (but didn't see him for a week of that). Didn't sleep with anyone until I was 28 and he's the bloke I ended up marrying. I don't know if I'd have been described as peculiar. I had a lovely group of friends who seemed happy to spend time with me.

springalong Thu 07-May-15 17:13:26

I've known 2 people - both female - both now mid-50s. One is odd (possibly undiagnosed aspergers) and the other is lovely but is like marmite to people - you either love or hate her. TBH I think part of the issues with no 2 is living on your own nearly all your life does mean that those rough edges that get knocked off when you live with others, didn't in this case.

Hakluyt Thu 07-May-15 17:13:41

"Yes, my best friend is almost 25 and has only ever had one random kiss in a nightclub. She has never had a boyfriend and never had sex."

Wow- 24, eh? I presume she's resigned herself to a lonely future considering she's still single at such an advance qge!

peachblossoms Thu 07-May-15 17:14:22

Yes, I was thinking a fair bit older than 24!

FluffyJawsOfDoom Thu 07-May-15 17:15:02

Yes, I've a friend in her 30s who's never been in a relationship. She's not odd in the slightest, just never been in the right place at the right time.

TheWitTank Thu 07-May-15 17:15:17

Yes, my friend (male) is in his 20s and has never had a relationship, kissed anyone or lost his virginity. He just isn't interested in all that! He is perfectly normal and very nice, he just has different priorities.

SaucyJack Thu 07-May-15 17:15:40

Yes, and yes- but it's highly possible only the "eccentric" ones come to my attention in the first place.

KittiesInsane Thu 07-May-15 17:16:55

I have a relative who is almost 50 and has never had a relationship. She is a little bit strange and a bit over invested in her parents but pretty harmless

--I wonder if you're related to my flatmate from college, Cashewnutty?

maras2 Thu 07-May-15 17:16:58

A woman that I used to work with.She was lovely,kind and well thought of by patients and colleagues.She bred and showed cats,actually 30 years on she still does.

Biscuitsneeded Thu 07-May-15 17:17:13

Yes. Lots. A few are genuine oddballs but others are lovely, functional, sociable people with plenty of friends. In a couple of cases I would hazard a guess that it may be due to unresolved issues around their sexuality but that is pure speculation on my part. And they are quite private people so I would never dream of asking them.

ShatnersBassoon Thu 07-May-15 17:17:25

Yes, a lovely woman in her 40s. She's very sociable, has lots of friends, has an interesting and worthwhile job, is average-looking, pretty normal in every way really.

I don't think she has any interest in romantic relationships. She just doesn't see people that way.

SagaNorensLeatherTrousers Thu 07-May-15 17:18:56

I have a male friend in his late 30's who has never had a relationship and probably never will. He lives the high life in Los Angeles and works on movie sets, and pretty much says he will never "settle down" at this point.

I also looked after an elderly lady who confessed to me that she would die a virgin (she has now died). She said "the opportunity never came up, Dear."

Bless her! smile

Betsyblue Thu 07-May-15 17:20:43

I can think of three off the top of my head- one is really immature, one is terrified of commitment and one is completely lovely and sociable etc. So really, all different to each other- just like people who have had/ are in relationships!

FunkyPeacock Thu 07-May-15 17:22:22

DH has a good friend who has never to my knowledge been in a relationship

He is very intelligent & not bad looking either BUT he is hugely lacking in social skills (? Aspergers)

He owns his own house, is very honest, kind and is also great with kids, so would probably make the perfect partner for someone out there but he hasn't met her yet!

cailindana Thu 07-May-15 17:22:35

Yes, she's 30. She has what another poster describes as "unresolved issues around her sexuality." I know she feels under pressure to be in a relationship and knows people find it odd that she has never been in one. She is beautiful, funny and kind, but there are definitely issues there. I don't know if she'll ever resolve them.

EmeraldThief Thu 07-May-15 17:26:32

I can't say I'm all that interested in other people's sex lives to even care to be honest, but have you ever heard of asexuality? Some people just genuinely arent interested in relationships etc.

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