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Your money or your life?

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ClodiaF Wed 06-May-15 21:11:34

Bit of a complicated scenario, sorry....I've been living abroad for most of my maternity leave with DS2, and we're about to return to the UK. DH and I have resolved to move abroad again some time this year, after I have worked off my maternity leave in my current job (I have to stay a minimum of 3 months). The aim is to find a better quality of life for less money than we need in the UK, to allow DH to pursue his life dream of becoming a professional musician, and me to find an alternative career from my present job, which I do not love. The idea is that I will do TEFL to begin with, and I'm studying for a qualification in that at the moment.

The issue we cannot agree on is the timing. DH wants us to take a short term let for the required 3 months, and then disappear again at the first opportunity. The trouble with this plan is that short term lets are extremely expensive, and should I need any longer than 3 months to find a TEFL job abroad, prohibitively so. It would be cheaper for us to take a normal 6 month let and then move, probably after Xmas to avoid having to fly back for the seasonal round of family visits etc. This is my preferred option.

DH fully acknowledges that his plan is going to be more expensive (around 2K so best scenario), but as he puts it, it's not worth putting our lives on hold just for the sake of money. I think that 3 months is only time, 2k is 2k and he's just being impractical and a bit naive to think it doesn't matter. Needless to say we are currently sitting in separate rooms sulking at each other. AIBU??

Topseyt Wed 06-May-15 21:16:40

Well, it isn't a lifestyle I can relate to, but if I could save myself £2k then I would.

AyeAmarok Wed 06-May-15 21:19:11

I'm afraid I don't understand your post/predicament.

AyeAmarok Wed 06-May-15 21:19:20

I'm afraid I don't understand your post/predicament.

AyeAmarok Wed 06-May-15 21:19:26

I'm afraid I don't understand your post/predicament.

FunkyPeacock Wed 06-May-15 21:22:25

I'm with you. 2K is quite a lot of money & you may well be grateful for it if your new careers take a month or two to get off the ground.

3 months will fly by & your new baby will be slightly older so may make the move a little easier

YouMakeMyHeartSmile Wed 06-May-15 21:36:27

I think you're right. 2k is a lot and 3 months is barely any time to get sorted. Has your DH been working while you've been abroad? Has he got a job back in the UK?

Theycallmemellowjello Wed 06-May-15 21:39:17

Hm I see your point but then again a 12 month let is cheaper than a 6 month one and it's cheaper still to lock into a longer contract. Are you planning on finding a job before you go to the new place? It's usually easier to find a position once you're there. And if it's cheaper to live in the new country are you sure that it won't work out cheaper to be living there for that three months? It's hard to say without knowing the ins and outs but if you're set on going to this place and the 2k is really the only reason not to go sooner, then I'd say you may as well just go - the sooner you're established there the sooner you'll be financially viable as a family.

ClodiaF Wed 06-May-15 21:42:52

should have said DH is s/e, works on the internet so in theory can move anywhere tomorrow. Topseyt- me too sometimes! Sometimes I think what we're trying to do is pretty crazy and/or should only be contemplated by people who are a lot more financially secure than we are....just trying to go with it for now confused

RedBrickRoad Wed 06-May-15 21:45:09

Honestly, look for an alternative thing to do. Lots of people here (in Europe) have TEFL and they are scrabbling about getting €5 an hour. Too many people think it's a career option and teaching English will not cover bills.

Look into remote working jobs getting paid in £'s.

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