Went out for some drinks with some friends tonight who I love dearly but as I was sat there chatting I was struck by the difference between my life and theirs.
They are all married, or in serious relationships, either with children or with children in the 'two year plan.'
Unfortunately, I've had NO luck with dating, with meeting anyone or with relationships and, to be blunt, doubt I ever will. The only opportunities I may get are online and I am a VERY ordinary looking woman. As such, I get no interest bar the odd 'hi' from unemployed men in their 50s (am 34, nearly 35).
For the most part I manage to remain cheerful and confident but just every now and again it does get to me and tonight it is, for some reason.
(Please, don't try to 'chivy' me up by telling me what I should do online to get noticed! I know it's just my face/body - latter in particular! - that aren't attractive.)
AIBU?
To be feeling sad and a bit sorry for myself?
cinnamonwalnuts · 02/05/2015 22:14
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Bah. 
for you. You need drinks with your single mates tomorrow night. They will all be in minding their kids.
I've been there and it's utter pants.
I had a MASSIVE row with my very best friend on one occasion when she tried to perk me up with her platitudes about positive thinking and how it will happen for me one day etc and I just exploded. I screamed at her, "It's easy for you to fucking say that isn't it though with your perfect husband, your lovely daughter and baby number two on it's fucking way!!!!"
Whoops.
I did go round three days later and apologise though 
What kind of sad person goes out for drinks with friends and talks about the "two year plan"
Screw them.
I have a friend who is a fairly ordinary looking man. Maybe even VERY ordinary looking.
He has a decent job (though he's not a high flier; it's just a job that he enjoys and is good at). He is financially stable, honest, friendly and has lots of hobbies and interests.
He was single for years and years and years. Then he tried online dating. Went on a date with someone and they hit it off. Have been happily married for, um, 5 or so years now.
I would say that his wife is also fairly to very ordinary looking. He is crazy about her, absolutely worships the ground she walks on.
My point is that there ARE lovely, stable, employed men out there looking for relationships and not necessarily with model-material stunners. I feel odd describing my friend's wife by her looks (she is so much more than that) but it's really relevant to your post in this case.
Looks aren't everything, even online. I'm not pretending it's easy, but it's not hopeless.
Yy to "two year plan" talk over drinks being sad and pathetic.
Sometimes it works out but nature sometimes has other plans 
Healthy makes a big difference.
I know you specifically said you didn't want tips but when you have a bit of a glow from regular exercise it really shows. So get back to it 
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