AIBU.. Holiday costs? Splitting accommodation dosh.

[IamtheDevilsAvocado]

Here's the deal...

A group of us are going to mainland Europe and hiring a villa in August .

We are two couples (one room each) and a a family with teenage kids (3 rooms).

To get a villa large enough without having to tolerate delightfully messy teenagers sleeping on floor, we've had to go up a price band.

Also the 'family' mum has insisted on an extra room so she can have her old friends that are native to the country to stay an odd few days here and there.. We have never met these people.

We are also travelling in Aug aroubd the kids holidays...we have sucked up the extra cost of travelling at peak time so we can all holiday together.

So we are booking a 6 bedroomed villa.. In August.

we have had a email with our proposed cost per couple/family...the total amount has been divided by 3..AIBU to be about this?

How would people divide this the most fairly? .. Without being seen as either petty or being taken advantage of..?

[IamtheDevilsAvocado]

PS The family is quite well off and one of tje couples. The other couple, less so

[KoalaDownUnder]

So you (and your partner/DH) are getting one bedroom, the other couple are getting one bedroom, and the third couple are getting FOUR bedrooms?

YANBU. I'm sure others will have suggestions about how to split it fairly, but I really don't think thirds is right!

[MythicalKings]

Maybe send an email with the cost divided by the number of people and say that sounds fairer.

[Janethegirl]

25%, 25% and 50%, but this should have been discussed before booking.

[Ragwort]

I guess it's too late to say it sounds a totally mad idea to go on holiday with teenagers ...................... - I find it a struggle to go on holiday with my own teenager.

Most holiday costs are per person - perhaps suggest that or per bedroom?

Please come back after the holiday and let us know how it went.

[Snoopedontoo]

Seriously I would divide by 9 and pay 2/9 of that . They are taking the piss. We holiday with family like that and we are the ones with teenagers. The couple with babies just pay for 2, grandparents pay for 2 and we pay for 4. Teens have own bedroom and bathroom. It costs us big money??

[KoalaDownUnder]

Thinking about it...you're paying for more than just bedrooms in the house cost, so I don't think you can ask them to split 4/6 and 1/6 and 1/6, IYSWIM.

I do think the family who wants 4 bedrooms should pay a decent whack more, though. Maybe 50%, and 25% by each of the couples? After all, if you were only getting a 3-bedroom place for 3 couples, it would presumably be much cheaper.

[GrumpySwivelHead]

YANBU - the split should be by bedrooms used, perhaps ignoring the spare bedroom, although I would personally feel that if they insisted on an extra bedroom they should pay for it...

I would also consider whether you really want to go on this holiday.... If it's starting like this, I suspect they'll be more trouble along the way about splitting costs, chores etc etc

[exLtEveDallasNoBollocks]

Ok that's ridiculous, are you sure you want to holiday with these people? I'd say the cost should be split by room, so a 6 way split, with you paying one, other couple paying one and family paying 4 (why 4, can't the teens share a room? Mum and dad in one, teens in another and the 'spare' room for the visitors)

Otherwise, maybe two villas, one shared between you and the other simple couple and the second villa by the family. Tbh you and the other couple would be better off in a hotel.

[Piratespoo]

No, that isn't fair . It should either be divided by rooms, if the teens are sharing a room and they want another spare room plus one for parents it should be split 1:1:3 per family. Or just split by person, either including or excluding the visitor 2:2:5 (presuming all are couples).

Did you not discuss how it would be split before it was booked? Sounds like an uncomfortable conversation to have!

[boodles]

You could either split the cost by room, then pay for the number of rooms you have. Or split the cost by person, including children, and pay per person. Whatever you decide to do you need to do it quickly I think. Maybe work out the cost in a fairer way and make sure you cc the other families in too, I bet they would be glad you mentioned it.

[Snoopedontoo]

Just to say I am under the assumption that there were 3 teens which is how I came up with 9 so just adjust that if more or less teens. I would however let the extra room slide for the native visitor to not appear too unreasonable

[shewept]

They need 4 rooms and want to pay the same as you? No, that's not right.

[mayfridaycomequickly]

I'd go for 50%, 25%, 25%

If this doesn't get sorted now you'll be paying 1/3 of meals etc too... speak up!

[GloGirl]

The fairest way is to split the cost by bedroom. So price / 6. If you sleep in it you pay for it (or your friends/parents do)

[MythicalKings]

^^ oh yes, look out for splitting the bill on meals!

[IamtheDevilsAvocado]

Koala-yes that's about it!

We discussed it, previously and the overall idea was..
'As there is so many of us the cost per couple will be quite low'.
This appears to have changed... The person who sent tje mail out is someone I've been a bit mweh about... It's tje husband who is a good pal.

Also the visiting friends weren't mentioned, previously, and, even if they were, I guess I would nt be expecting for them to stay overnight..

And deffo not being expected to contribute to a cost of a room for them!

Also tj3 other thing I can square in my head... Re food. Tje idea was we'd mostly self cater... It's now occured that we will be consuming /abd buying food for essentially 9 adults plus visitors.. I'm wondering now if they're proposing that this is split 3 ways... . I really am not begrudging people the odd glass of wine or meal.. But we are talking 14 days x 3 daily meals x9 people.. So aroubd 400 meals... Let alone the mothers serious drinking issues... Am i being petty? Please be frank!

How on earth do others deal with these situations..??

[Ragwort]

How on earth do others deal with these situations..?

By never, ever going on holiday with another family.

[londonrach]

Is it too late to pull out. This sounds like a mindfield. You might be good friends not but suspect you may not be after the holiday due to bad feeling re money. Can you book somewhere separate...

[WipsGlitter]

Don't go on holiday with these people. It will be a nightmare if this is their attitude. You will have to ask to shop separately otherwise it will end up costing a fortune or insist the kitty is they contribute 50% and you and the other couple 25%.

[sandgrown]

I have to admit that many years ago I went on a skiing holiday with my children's godparents. I was a single parent and luckily got one child free because they were going. When I asked to go in school holidays ( when the price was much higher) they objected because of the high price. When I considered it properly I agreed with them but I simply had not thought it through. We changed the date !

[GloGirl]

I think you can sense the snowball

GET OUT NOW WHILST YOU STILL CAN

Seriously, send an email saying you were happy to pay a third for a three bedroomed villa, you're not happy to pay a third for a sixth one. Suggest you all get your own villa? Or just don't go which would be my choice.

[EhricLovesTheBhrothers]

Is it already booked? Can you cancel?

[IamtheDevilsAvocado]

Thanks for the replies!

Actually I was beginning to think about how much cheaper it may be in a hotel... (not for the family tho..!!). Or to have separate accommodation.. Cost isnt the main priority BUT we cant afford for this holiday to bankrupt us!

We are very fond of virtually all the people.. (except the mum of the family, who can be a bit challenging.. As she is proving..!).

It's beginning to make me a bit sick just thinking about it tbh. We agreed to this holiday on the basis of it not being massively expensive...as said we cant afford to let this bankrupt!

Perhaps I've been a bit goodish...

We're trying to save for a deposit, but are desperate for a break!