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to find it very annoying when dh dishes out less food for me, as i'm a women

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CatSwag Fri 01-May-15 11:16:12

and men need to eat more

he always does this,esp if we have a take away

I find it odd and controlling, while I get the men may need a few more calories
I have an active life, he works in an office

CatSwag Fri 01-May-15 11:16:49

woman obv

Stopandlook Fri 01-May-15 11:18:28

Tell him you want more?

CatSwag Fri 01-May-15 11:18:47


CMOTGilbertBlythe Fri 01-May-15 11:19:31

Do you think he's just a greedy git? Dish out more for yourself next time.

MargotLovedTom Fri 01-May-15 11:19:46

Well men generally do need more calories! Just dish your own food up and take however much you want. Labelling it as 'controlling' is OTT, IMO.

FernGullysWoollyPully Fri 01-May-15 11:19:57

I'd LTB. Nothings coming between me and a decent meal....


EatShitDerek Fri 01-May-15 11:19:59

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CatSwag Fri 01-May-15 11:20:00

I always do tell him
if I dish up I do an equal amount which annoys him

SoupDragon Fri 01-May-15 11:20:00

Women need 500 calories less, on average.

DressingGownFrown Fri 01-May-15 11:20:10

But for the most part men DO need more calories. What with being generally bigger and having a higher body% of muscle...

SunnySomer Fri 01-May-15 11:20:36

I get why it's annoying; perhaps you should serve yourself in future?
However, my DH serves us equal portions (we are similar height and I am more active) and over the first three years we were together I gained 2 stones which was HARD to lose. (Think what I'm saying is: have equal shares at your peril!)

SwirlyThingAlert Fri 01-May-15 11:20:59

Sounds like the excuse of a greedy git to me, and nothing to do with him being man, you being woman! grin
Simple solution - YOU dish up and that way you get equal food!

OnIlkleyMoorBahTwat Fri 01-May-15 11:21:37

Can't you dish out your own food? Is he giving you less takeaway so he can get more? Can't you just order more?

A takeaway (eg. curry and rice or fish and chips) does two meals for me but there's no way I'm letting DP have any of mine just because I don't want to eat it all in one go. I do want the rest of it, but just not right now.

What does he say when you ask him about it?

trice Fri 01-May-15 11:21:40

Dh is 6ft 7 and obviously needs a lot more calories than I do. He doesn't get more take out though. I get first dibs on all tasty treats.

Eva50 Fri 01-May-15 11:21:49

If you need to eat as much as him then tell him that. I dish out larger portions for dh, ds1 (19) and ds2 (17) than I do for ds3 (8) or myself as I have tested it whilst cooking we don't eat as much.

threenotfour Fri 01-May-15 11:21:55

I had a friend who used to have us to dinner and cook delicious things and then only offer the seconds to my DH and her DH. Men only got seconds apparently. It was very annoying! She is a great cook and I wanted seconds too. haha

CatSwag Fri 01-May-15 11:22:59

i'm a 12 so ok not skinny but the other weekend we ordered a takeaway, usually have on, once aweek on a Saturday, I said oh think I will have a large kebab tonight
I was starving that day
and he went on one over it
saying oh that's so greedy etc etc

does it in front of dd too which I don't like

expatinscotland Fri 01-May-15 11:23:01

Serve yourself. If it annoys him, too bad.

OrangeVase Fri 01-May-15 11:23:25

You dish it out then.

CatSwag Fri 01-May-15 11:23:56

when I dish it up, he complains if he doesn't get more than me

OurGlass Fri 01-May-15 11:25:11

God I feel sorry for men these days.

FirstWeTakeManhattan Fri 01-May-15 11:25:28

'Controlling'? That's a big and evocative word to use. I assume there's other issues OP?

If it is just about the takeaway, then get your own spoon, serve your own dinner, then have a chat about why the fuck it annoys him?

expatinscotland Fri 01-May-15 11:25:28

Now that kind of talk in front of your DD I would lose my shit about. Tell him to stop. Pull him up on it. 'You don't dictate how much food I need. That's controlling and petty. Cut it out.'

expatinscotland Fri 01-May-15 11:26:42

It is controlling if he is insisting he always gets more because he's the man. You tell him to stop.

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