I know I am not being completely reasonable here, but I don't think I am being totally unreasonable either and I don't know what is a fair compromise.
I have a 6 month old and several stepchildren who live with us full time. The eldest is 19 and wonderful with her new little sister, loves cuddling her, the baby is bonding well with her and I'm happy about that.
However, my stepdaughter wears really strong perfume every day and the baby smells of it all the time. I know I can't expect the baby never to smell of anyone else ever. I've had people visit and left the baby smelling of their perfume or clothes or whatever and I know it's just what happens and it wears off after a bit or washes off with the next wash. But because my stepdaughter lives with us, the baby now ALWAYS smells of this perfume. It doesn't help that it's some really sickly sweet yucky stuff but that's not the main issue. Sometimes SD comes home from college, picks the baby up and passes the scent on so it doesn't just happen when she's only just applied the perfume first thing in the morning - I think she reapplies during the day because it's usually overpoweringly strong.
I can't just resolve it by timing baths for after stepdaughter hugs because I only do baths twice a week for a start, but even daily wouldn't be enough because my stepdaughter holds her several times a day.
I don't want to stop the cuddles as they both enjoy it and I want the baby to be close to her big siblings but I don't feel that it's reasonable to ask my stepdaughter to stop wearing perfume just to cuddle her sister.
What would be a reasonable solution? Please don't just say get over it - it's such an overpowering smell to have on a young baby all day every day. I wouldn't mind if it just happened, say, some evenings if she cuddled her before going out, or a couple of mornings a week, but it's there all day and except for immediately after baths, the baby always smells like vomited candyfloss strong perfume. Her skin is quite sensitive so I don't want to be washing her constantly either. Aside from twice weekly baths she gets a good top and tail every day but that doesn't include hair-washing daily and it's often her head/hair that the smell clings to.
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ScathingContempt · 26/04/2015 15:54
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