To not take the DC to gym.

[VeryLazyNameChange]

Technically I'm not supposed to because my MIl can't come with me but the leader has told me I can go alone with both of them whilst she is ill (everyone else is allowed to take two children, but not me because oldest DC is a handful...)

I have the first main day of my period today and am going through a super plus tampon and pad in less than two hours. Plus cramps. I could go. But I don't want to. I've spent the past half hour cleaning up a cup of milk spilt over the sofa, am therefore now grumpy and have no desire to try to control a 5 and 2 year old in a gym. But I could do it, if I swallowed some painkillers and hope I don't leak. Alternative program is quick trip to the shops and home for painting and game and tv. If I go to the gym we leave at 9 and I won't be back until 130 at the earliest.

Please wise mnetters, decide for me.

[Justmuddlingalong]

Don't go. There, decision made.

[bigbluestars]

Not sure what the problem is here.

[Mammanat222]

I don't get it either?

Don't go! You obviously don't want to which is fine.

[VeryLazyNameChange]

Maternal guilt... And the fact that I've already paid for the sessions, so I am wasting money.

[MojaveWanderer123]

If you feel that shit why don't you just take some painkillers and have a chill out day. The kids will survive a day without planned activities.
I would also go to the GP about your periods as there are lots of things they can do to help with that.

[JudgeRinderSays]

you clearly don't want to go so don't
I don't know why you feel you need is to give you permission?

[VeryLazyNameChange]

Oh, I have been to the Drs. This is much better than the vomiting and passing out that I used to do without fail each month.

I suppose I'm asking at what point you put what you want to do above doing what is best for the DC. Am I just being selfish?

If MiL were here, I would go. But there were comments last week at the end of the session and the week before we left early (although the leader seemed to think I was being too strict) because they wouldn't do as they were told. And I feel guilty that I don't want to deal with the hassle of it.

[bigbluestars]

For whose benefit is the gym? Is it a class for you or the kids?

[VeryLazyNameChange]

Kids gym. Prancing around pretending to be an octopus or something and holding hands they whilst they clamber over boxes, balance on benches, jump onto mats/climb the wall bars.

[bigbluestars]

Don't feel guilty about which choice suits you best.

In your situation I would choose te gym however- boisteroius kids need to let off a bit of steam and once they have exerciced can be a little calmer.
Would they become a little stir crazy if at home all day? Or could you compromise and let tem run around te park for an hour after your shopping?

[MissDuke]

The kids go to the gym for like 3 or 4 hours?

[SummerHouse]

I feel like you might feel better if you go. I am sometimes faced with such dilemmas and I look for excuses. But if I actually do the thing I don't regret it. The opposite in fact. That said if you decide not to don't give it a second of guilt. You have good reasons. I just think its half a day of half the that could be a nightmare stuck in. You never know they might be angels in gym today.

[SummerHouse]

Half a day of half term I mean.

[VeryLazyNameChange]

No Miss, the are at the gym for 50 minutes. But we need a couple of buses to get there, and they don't run often and don't connect well.

[LynetteScavo]

Just go to the park with a flask of coffee.

[Polgara2]

Don't go - easy

[SummerHouse]

Two buses? This is new and damming information. Do anything but this.