Colleagues are wanting to see my baby once she is born. I honestly believe that most couldn't give a flying toss and are being 'polite'. Although if I don't, I would be made to feel guilty and colleagues could end up shunning me moreso!
I have had a strained relationship with my boss for 6 months. After 4 years of what I thought was a fantastic working relationship (I admired and liked her immensely), she started being horrible towards me. She said some hurtful things and smashed and battered my confidence and self esteem. I went on sick leave for a few months. She contacted me via letter twice and numerous personal texts and these lifted my spirits. It was this that persuaded me to return to work to 'build bridges', prove to myself I could 'do the job' and show her that I was strong and didn't hate or dislike her. (I wrote a very long letter which didn't hold back on my feelings!!!)
In the five weeks I have been back, she hasn't ONCE done the things she said she would do. She has NEVER been to see me in my area of work or ASKED how I was feeling and getting on. In fact, a colleague even complained to another one of our line managers about the lack of care and concern towards me and him. So today was my final day before maternity leave. I left WITHOUT her saying goodbye or good luck. I went to the office and said goodbye and she completely ignored me. No text since (like the secretary did when she missed me) to wish me luck or anything.
So now I am feeling very, very hurt. I went back to work on the understanding that she cared, wanted me back and was committed to suporting me. Clearly everything she said in letters and texts was a complete and utter lie. Colleagues are gobsmacked about her rudeness and lack of care about the health and well-being of staff in general, never mind just me!
It was the treatment during the last five weeks that have made me think; "What is the point of making an hour's trip to visit people/persons who simply don't give a flying f* about me???" (Not just my boss, but various staff who are 'close' to her and quite frankly plain ignorant!)
Am I BU about this? Seriously, the last 6 months have been hell trying to cope with pregnancy, hormones and what I now think is depression caused by stress. I had very few colleagues who came to wish me luck. It was horrible. I felt so isolated and ignored prior to my sick leave and now it feels my feelings have been justified.
So much I could say about things said/done to me in the last 6 months but just too numerous!
Thanks for getting this far down the thread. I just want some honest (but sensitive) comments to tell me if I am right or wrong for not wanting to go into work with my baby. I just don't see the point taking my baby into an environment where I am not liked or valued.
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