I would be very grateful for some perspective here, as I feel a bit like I'm losing sight of the woods for the trees.
My relationship with PIL has been a little strained for the last year or two, primarily because I feel that they have little respect for our privacy and autonomy.
Over the last few weeks I've had a cancer scare. It turns out that it's ok. They have removed the pre-cancerous cells from my cervix and I'm happy and relieved that it's all sorted out. It was however not a very pleasant time whilst we were waiting for the results. Dd is very young and I was very worried about what would happen.
I found out this morning that DH has discussed this with MIL. I certainly wouldn't have planned to tell PIL and I really wish he hadn't told them without asking me. To be fair to DH, MIL very sadly has cancer and I think DH possibly felt that she was therefore an appropriate person to talk to about it. But am I being unreasonable to be a bit annoyed? MIL is very open about her symptoms and treatments and that's totally fair enough -everyone has their own way of dealing with things. She's obviously having a very tough time right now and that's very sad and she needs whatever support she wants - but I don't really want to talk about my own scare and definitely not with PIL. Am I unreasonable to be a bit surprised that he told her, or am I being precious? In case it's relevant,I've told my parents but not my siblings.
I feel like a total witch for thinking these these things when MIL is ill, but I think I've just been pushed over the edge this morning by an email from SIL announcing that she thinks we need to have a birthday party for FIL at our house. Last time this happened, the party went on for 5 days, whilst I was heavily pregnant. There were 70 people staying in our house /in the hotel across the road but coming to us for meals and daytime activities. I don't think we can do it again.
Logically, I know these two things are unrelated but I feel a bit like our lives and our home are seen as being some kind of weirdly communal resource. I probably am being totally and bonkersly unreasonable -feel free to tell me so!
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Dontwanttopanic · 12/02/2015 08:49
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