Have been asked twice today by different people. I'm not pregnant and had my youngest 7 years ago. Ok, to be fair I do look in the v early stages - maybe 2 or 3 months gone but am a size 10 so I guess my spare tyre does show a bit. Then I was referred to as "apple shaped" by one lady. Great!!! I just think people should be really, really sure before they ask - ie there needs to be a full football sized protrusion!! Too much possibility of upsetting someone imo. People just don't think before they speak do they?
Has happened to me too. Yes I agree should wait until completely obvious has happened to me when I've been fat and when I weighed my lightest ever just have no hips or waist and a sticky out tummy. Ho hum.
Someone asked me last year and I was mortified and really upset. I knew I'd gained weight but was very sensitive about it. Someone asking if you're pregnant when you're not basically just screams 'you're fat'.
I've never been asked when I haven't been pg but was asked with my first and couldn't help but say "no I'm not". I was 34 weeks in a big coat and the woman's face just dropped. I felt a bit bad so had to explain I was joking
I gave my train seat up for what I thought was a heavily pregnant women, she went ballistic and stormed off. The guy sat next to me was thanking me as he was about to do the same and I had saved him from an earful. Now I just look at my own shoes unless the rub their belly and even then I am sheepish.
I've been asked a few times lately. I don't find it offensive. I'm not pg but I have a fibroid the size of a six-month fetus so I do look pg (quite slim in other places), and several occasions were on public transport where I'm sure I would have been offered a seat if I had said yes (it did cross my mind as it would have been nice to sit down!). Others were friends who I'm sure would have congratulated me. I'm just a bit bemused by it, but I don't get why I should feel upset about it.
I used to suffer from fibroids which caused my stomach to swell and, because I was slim everywhere else, I was constantly being asked when I was due and being offered seats on the bus. It used to really upset me and I never ever assume anyone's pregnant unless they tell me.
Cobain I think this is why many women wear the baby on board badges - to avoid situations like yours . I did once suspect a woman was pregnant but didn't want to offer my seat just in case but she got all huffy with everyone because no one got up for her