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to think people shouldn't ask you if you're pregnant until you're the size of a house?

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printmeanicephoto Wed 11-Feb-15 15:00:23

Have been asked twice today by different people. I'm not pregnant and had my youngest 7 years ago. Ok, to be fair I do look in the v early stages - maybe 2 or 3 months gone but am a size 10 so I guess my spare tyre does show a bit. Then I was referred to as "apple shaped" by one lady. Great!!! I just think people should be really, really sure before they ask - ie there needs to be a full football sized protrusion!! Too much possibility of upsetting someone imo. People just don't think before they speak do they?

Branleuse Wed 11-Feb-15 15:02:15

someone asked me if i was pregnant last year. Im not. I just told them im not. Didnt bother me particularly. Was probably just my posture and the fact ive had 3 kids.

A few years ago it would have sent me into self hatred and despair, but now i dgaf what they think really

EatShitDerek Wed 11-Feb-15 15:03:50

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Bettybodybooboo Wed 11-Feb-15 15:04:29

Agree how bloody rude op.

BehindEveryCloud Wed 11-Feb-15 15:04:35

Awwww flowers

No, YANBU! I've been asked if I'm "pregnant again"... No, I'm not. My DS is 9 months and I haven't lost the pregnancy weight so leave me alone!

Btw, I'd gladly trade being a size 10 with an early pregnancy belly with my current jelly mould shape!

kittentwo Wed 11-Feb-15 15:04:46

Has happened to me too. Yes I agree should wait until completely obvious has happened to me when I've been fat and when I weighed my lightest ever just have no hips or waist and a sticky out tummy. Ho hum.

Bettybodybooboo Wed 11-Feb-15 15:05:48

As long as you arnt a midwife EatShit grin that may not inspire confidence.

Comito Wed 11-Feb-15 15:06:05

I wish people would think first too.

Someone asked me last year and I was mortified and really upset. I knew I'd gained weight but was very sensitive about it. Someone asking if you're pregnant when you're not basically just screams 'you're fat'.

BehindEveryCloud Wed 11-Feb-15 15:06:05

grin agreed EatShitDerek!

EatShitDerek Wed 11-Feb-15 15:06:48

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Pantone363 Wed 11-Feb-15 15:08:00

I'm 30 weeks pregnant and the size of a house.

I take great delight in glaring at anyone who asks when the baby is due and ask them "what baby?"grin

EatShitDerek Wed 11-Feb-15 15:10:18

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heartisaspade Wed 11-Feb-15 15:11:39

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SuasSios Wed 11-Feb-15 15:13:06

Overheard a woman asking DH when our baby was due. He looked suitably hmm and I vowed to bin my voluminous maxi dress (which tbf did make me look like a comfy sofa)

I am fat all over, I am under no illusions about that, but as someone who is TTC, it was a bit of a punch in the (fat) face.

GlitzAndGigglesx Wed 11-Feb-15 15:20:14

I've never been asked when I haven't been pg but was asked with my first and couldn't help but say "no I'm not". I was 34 weeks in a big coat and the woman's face just dropped. I felt a bit bad so had to explain I was joking

HatieKokpins Wed 11-Feb-15 15:23:01

I just take the seat on the tube whether I'm pregnant or not, frankly.

Mulligrubs Wed 11-Feb-15 15:25:31

Yep, unless I was to actually see a baby pop out of someone's vagina I wouldn't ask/mention pregnancy unless they had told me about it. You just never ask unless they mention it!

TheListingAttic Wed 11-Feb-15 15:27:09

I am apple-shaped, so I look like I'm just starting to show all the bloody time - although I'm not pregnant, and never have been.

Yanbu. People shouldn't ask if there's any room for doubt whatsoever!

Cobain Wed 11-Feb-15 15:29:46

I gave my train seat up for what I thought was a heavily pregnant women, she went ballistic and stormed off. The guy sat next to me was thanking me as he was about to do the same and I had saved him from an earful. Now I just look at my own shoes unless the rub their belly and even then I am sheepish.

chunkymars Wed 11-Feb-15 15:36:57

I've been asked a few times lately. I don't find it offensive. I'm not pg but I have a fibroid the size of a six-month fetus so I do look pg (quite slim in other places), and several occasions were on public transport where I'm sure I would have been offered a seat if I had said yes (it did cross my mind as it would have been nice to sit down!). Others were friends who I'm sure would have congratulated me. I'm just a bit bemused by it, but I don't get why I should feel upset about it.

Behindthepaintedgarden Wed 11-Feb-15 15:37:01

I used to suffer from fibroids which caused my stomach to swell and, because I was slim everywhere else, I was constantly being asked when I was due and being offered seats on the bus. It used to really upset me and I never ever assume anyone's pregnant unless they tell me.

YANBU.

LadyLuck10 Wed 11-Feb-15 15:39:44

If you do look pregnant then why would someone not ask if you are?

Behindthepaintedgarden Wed 11-Feb-15 15:58:43

Because it's tactless. There's always a chance the person has just put on weight, has a tummy that's out of proportion to the rest of them, has fibroids etc etc etc

printmeanicephoto Wed 11-Feb-15 16:07:29

Lady luck - because if they're not pregnant then you're basically just calling someone fat. It's just tackless unless you're really sure.

GlitzAndGigglesx Wed 11-Feb-15 17:53:59

Cobain I think this is why many women wear the baby on board badges - to avoid situations like yours grin. I did once suspect a woman was pregnant but didn't want to offer my seat just in case but she got all huffy with everyone because no one got up for her

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