Name change for this one, sorry but I post on here too often.
Currently expecting a baby with my partner, we have been together for 18 months. This is his first baby, not my first.
When we first got together, it very quickly became glaringly obvious that there was a persistent (psycho if I am allowed to use that word) ex of his.
She used to call him all hours, and send him messages.
He would show me the messages, none of them were sexual, all just stupid things like she had issues with her husband (she is now married with children) and that she needed someone to talk to blah blah.
At first I kind of let it slide, he had put her on loudspeaker a couple of times and it didn't bother me, he clearly had nothing to hide.
Roll on a couple of months in to the relationship and she started doing really nasty things. Taking pictures from my social media accounts, putting them on hers and slagging me off with nasty comments.
It soon became clear that she didn't want him as a friend, but instead wanted him back and was jealous.
My partner blocked her from his phone, social media.
She started calling him from another number, and he told her not to contact him again.
She still was friends with one of his friends, we all went out one night and one of those friends 'tagged' us in a place. She turned up.
She didn't say anything, but walked past several times.
Later on that night, the friend told me she had been writing lots of nasty stuff about me again on social media. I was pissed off, but wasn't rising to it.
A few weeks later, she tried to add me on Facebook, under another name (her company name) I declined the request.
She then text my partner on his birthday (at this point the IOS update hadn't included texts when blocking someone)
He ignored her and she text again, asking why he was ignoring her.
He ignored her again.
Roll on another few months, and we are pregnant.
I suspect she has got wind of this from somewhere, and on Saturday night at 1am we receive a constant ringing of the phone from a witheld number.
Partner whacks his phone and goes back to sleep.
I'm awake and I know who this is.
The next morning I said to him I am going to ask our friend to look up on Twitter to see if she was out (drunk) the night before.
Guess what? Selfies posted within 10 minutes of the call.
I am right to be paranoid about this?
I feel low enough as it is being pregnant and getting bigger, without the added annoyance of this woman in the background.
She isn't exactly stalking us, but she is trying to keep herself in his mindset.
He is adamant he cannot stand her. They never lived together, they were together for a year (back in the mid 2000's) and then she met her husband.
She slept with my partner whilst she was with her husband, and I suspect my partner being a single man back then, may have given her the impression they were going to be together (when he admits, that was never going to be the case)
She is in her late 30s, married as said, and lives about 3 miles from us.
We have never personally met and spoken.
Advice?
AIBU?
AIBU to be paranoid about OH's persistent ex?
Psychoex · 10/02/2015 14:25
Because the stupid twat went and slept with her when he was single, so basically giving her the psycho green light to carry on.
Believe me, we have spoken at lengths about what a prick he is for doing that.
He said he was weak, she was persistent blah blah.
(Was well before my time I might add)
I think that's what makes me even more paranoid, what if I am pregnant / just had baby and he comes weak and there she is?
Yes defo getting paranoid now, I know he wouldn't do that to me.
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