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thinking two men walking abreast would move for a ladee

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Datahub Mon 09-Feb-15 14:31:03

Or anyone really, I suppose. Walking today on a path to the hospital * tiny violin * and they just didnt, I was PUSHED ( gasp) to the side as they careered on through.

AIBU DISCLAIMER
I do have a life/grip and get out more than i should
this doesn't really matter, no, but its a website where people chat about stuff.
I probably AM an entitled bitch etc etc

Datahub Mon 09-Feb-15 14:31:29

i wasnt really pushed. I jsut had to give way.

* terrified of the drip feeding police*

Comito Mon 09-Feb-15 14:33:09

I never expect men to give way to me because I am a woman, but because they are being courteous to me as a human being.

GetSober Mon 09-Feb-15 14:33:31

YANBU to think that two people walking the other way were rude not to make space for you on a narrow path.

YABU to make it a "men vs ladee" ishoo.

Datahub Mon 09-Feb-15 14:34:13

but comito my hair looked AMAZING

Toooldtobearsed Mon 09-Feb-15 14:34:31

Just basic manners isn't it?

Drives me mad when mum, dad and toddler all have to hold hands when walking, forcing me into the road. Holding hands is lovely, but have the sense to break for a few seconds when other pedestrians are around.

Wow, that sounds meant, doesn't it? I don't care that much. Honest.

Wherehestands Mon 09-Feb-15 14:35:42

Men don't make way for women (except possibly young attractive women). I've tested this theory out many a time, and it's true. Women sort of instinctively move to one side when they are headed straight at a man coming in the opposite direction. The man just ploughs on. If you, the woman, don't move aside, you will collide. Just try it.

Datahub Mon 09-Feb-15 14:35:56

ANYONE holding hands who isnt
a) a teen struck lover or
b) a preschooler

needs shooting tbh

OstentatiousBreastfeeder Mon 09-Feb-15 14:36:15

Yanbu.

And if your hair looked amazing yadnbu.

Datahub Mon 09-Feb-15 14:36:36

wherehestands I might try it. like I once tried the supermarket conveyor belt divider thing

that was most gratifying

Datahub Mon 09-Feb-15 14:37:08

surely amazing hair should force groups of be t shirted men to DIVIDE like the red sea?

they accept their insignificance and part.. hmm?

MrsBertMacklin Mon 09-Feb-15 14:37:14

YABU for 'ladee'

Anyway, technique for making people move to one side that works for me 8/10 times. Don't make a hint of eye contact or even direct your head towards them; look into the middle distance behind the edge of their shoulders.

Wherehestands Mon 09-Feb-15 14:37:16

I once challenged a young man when he failed to move aside on a very narrow pavement, and I was very heavily laden with big rucksack etc. He said "It's my right not to move".

Comito Mon 09-Feb-15 14:37:29

People walking abreast in limited space drives me bonkers. DH and I were walking home the other night and three women were storming along the path towards us, arms linked, taking up the whole path and making it clear they expected us to jump into the road out of their way.

Wretches.

Gartenzwerg Mon 09-Feb-15 14:37:40

I usually avoid this by passing oncoming walkers on whichever side the building/hedge/etc is, rather than the road side. That way they are kind of forced to split up or give way, since there is nowhere for me to go. Usually works just fine.

Comito Mon 09-Feb-15 14:38:31

I don't dodge from side to side on busy pavements and more often than not people seem to move out of my way.

Datahub Mon 09-Feb-15 14:39:05

NO WAY WHere!

TinklyLittleLaugh Mon 09-Feb-15 14:41:11

DH often holds my hand because I am rather wobbly on my feet, (disabled and likely to fall over and embarrass us both otherwise). People often comment on how loved up and sweet we are, holding hands. hmm

Many people are not very observant.

Datahub Mon 09-Feb-15 14:41:59

products like these enable the hand holding path hoggers

www.smittens.biz/products/basic-style-smittens

Datahub Mon 09-Feb-15 14:42:17

lol at tinkly
i like the cut of your jib

ouryve Mon 09-Feb-15 14:45:14

I think that any group of people that takes up the full width of the pavement without good reason is just plain rude. It's taken me a few years to get the message through to a particular group of school mums that I wasn't willing to walk DS2 on the road so they could walk 3 abreast and chatter.

Datahub Mon 09-Feb-15 14:47:04

what did you DO?!!

OnlyLovers Mon 09-Feb-15 14:48:24

Really fecking rude if you're two or more people walking abreast and you don't separate for a few seconds to let one person pass.

I fix people with a hard stare and keep tramping. They usually see sense and move. I tried it with a gang of yoots a while ago and one of them did not give ground. He looked as though he was going to come after me (he muttered as we bashed shoulders because he wouldn't walk behind or in front of his mate for a minute) and I said 'Well, you walked into me, why should I move?'). His friend had to grab his arm. I was a bit scared but, if i"m honest, it was outweighed by a feeling of triumph.

It's not a gender thing though, just a general common decency thing.

ouryve Mon 09-Feb-15 14:49:25

And yes, it does mean walking him through the dogshit zone on the hedge side of the path.

ZingTheGreat Mon 09-Feb-15 14:50:10

you made me laugh with the but my hair looked AMAZING!

So for that reason YADNBU!

have some cake to calm your nerves

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