Bit of background. NC to avoid RL people knowing everything about me
3 DC one SEN
I gave up work to care for SEN dc1- DH started off right at the bottom of the ladder at this time at work- he was very depressed and thought he'd never do well in his chosen occupation- I encouraged a work change, supported him all the way, even he has acknowledged that he wouldn't be where he is now without me .
I've singled handedly raised the children from when DC3 was born This period saw DH away from us we only saw him Friday night/Saturday, he was off on Sunday to travel to work. This lasted for seven years. DH has done really well- I've had NO help at all, no friends, family,childcare other than nursery allowed hours/school. I'm no lazy arse. I have done everything in our home from gardening/DIY/Admin/cars/decorating I also volunteer locally etc. I've wanted to support the family wholeheartedly and did so knowing it wouldn't last forever.
I've wanted to return back to work for a while but DC1 has made this tricky. We're now at the point where I can and I have accepted a job part time of 25 hours a week. Some days we don't get home till 9pm with the clubs two of the children do and life like everyone else is hectic. My concern is DH has said he is not going to help with the housework when he is home as he wants to unwind and relax - he stays away in five star hotels and everything is taken care of as you can imagine. He goes off on Monday morning (late) and returns Friday morning. AIBU to think he could help in some way now my hours will be cut back. I think I will really struggle to do work/work planning/kids extra curricular stuff/all house stuff whilst DH sleeps. I do all the weekend activities whilst dh lies on the sofa and sleeps from about 11am onwards. Seeing people we know work together even with one partner working fewer hours is making me feel resentful
I ideally want him to do at least a few hours and have told him so- he's said it's too much for him and if I don't think I can cope then I should not take the job.
AIBU- thank you.
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To think DH should help me with house stuff when I return to work.
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RocQuinoa · 09/02/2015 13:07
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